Was this rude or am I sensitive

I saw a TikTok video of something that really excited me. I jumped up excited and giddy like a little girl to tell my husband about it. He always sends me videos of things he finds interested and I always pay attention.

As soon as I started to talk he cut me off and said ‘I can smell your breath from here… go and drink some water’. I instantly told him my breath doesn’t smell, I had literally just eaten an orange a moment before which was very sour and citrusy. My kid even told me my breath smelled like ‘sugar’. Also, I was not close to my husband, he was sat on one side of the couch and I was sat on a chair on the other side not part of the couch.

He repeatedly kept telling me ‘go and drink some water’ ‘go have some water and swish it around your mouth. He repeatedly said it around 4/5 times until I gave up trying to tell him and just left it and walked away as I felt a bit embarrassed after that and felt a little down about myself.

Fair enough, if I have bad breath tell me, but I wasn’t even close to him, I don’t think he needed to tell me more than once. I am quite sensitive but I also feel like he often does things like that and when I rarely get excited to tell him something and he cuts me off it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed

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See I would of been so pissed off that I would of probably said "are you sure you just didn't forget to wash your ass" then walked away

It doesn’t sound like you’re sensitive at all. Honestly I would’ve walked off after the first comment.

He sounds like a dickhead tbh

I’d of told him to go take his face for a shit tbf
But I’m petty lol.
He’s an arsehole don’t let him embarrass you he should be the one embarrassed

A few hours later, when I brought it up, he told me it was just a joke. He said ‘how could I have smelled your breath I wasn’t near you, it was just a joke’. I told him i don’t find it a joke when he repeatedly said it 4/5 different times cutting me off when talking. He insisted it was a ‘joke’

Hey you don't think you sound sensitive at all and honestly your husband seems either super weird or a jerk...
Like I get bed breath isn't the greatest...like my mom has a big eating disorder and her breath is terrible until she gets some food in her stomach... But it doesn't sound like this is your case....but like why would he talk to you that way even if your breath was terrible if he loves you and you're excited that's all that should matter 💕

The fact he’s stating it was a joke just makes it worse. Why did he feel the need to cut you off and be nasty 4/5 times when you were just trying to share something exciting with him.

he was literally being mean and making fun of you.
And tried to downplay it by saying it was a "joke"...

Was he expecting you to join in and say something back to him. Is that his way of humor.

That just reminds me of my partner cause he has diabetes and when he's sugar goes up I can literally smell it on his breath. I just tell him though, I don't go on repeating it and I don't tell him to go away

He was mocking you and being spiteful .. then cleverly dressed it up as a joke so that he doesn’t look like a bad person and instead makes you look like you’re being sensitive.. I’d keep an eye on these types of behaviours from him as he sound toxic x

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Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅