Advice from professionals

How on earth are we supposed to follow advice given by professionals if they all have a different opinion and advice to give?🤷🏼‍♀️🤯

For a bit of context.. my little girl is 7 weeks old (she’s our second baby)

She’s not been gaining a lot of weight and last week we were told she has a cows milk protein allergy. Prior to this I’d been at the hospital with her 3 or 4 times due to her being extremely constipated from birth. We were told we were over feeding and to give her no more than 70ml every 3 hours or 50ml every 2.

My none existent health visitor came last week after the hospital spoke to them (I’d tried but nothing returned) and said to feed her the same according to her weight.

Today another health visitor came and said I’m not feeding her enough, I’m missing her hunger cues (by the time I came back from boiling the kettle she was falling asleep, I’m not winding her properly, I should still be waking her during the night ( I’d been told I hadn’t got to)
I need to make the bottles up before hand..I’m not holding her correctly.

I know it’s their job but I just cried and cried when she left… like I’m failing my newborn.. 😭😭

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I'd say you don't want a health visitor and see a GP instead!!!!!
My baby had a really bad allergy and the hv kept brushing me off because he didn't have a rash. We had 7 weeks of CONSTANT screaming and he wouldn't go on his back so my husband and I were having to sit awake in shifts for him to sleep on our chest. Gp listened immediately and changed his milk. He was a different baby overnight

If baby isn't losing weight, I'd try and not worry too much. They go at their own pace. You're absolutely not failing 🖤

Omg don’t listen to a health visitor!! I’ve never had one so I don’t really know how this goes or what their qualifications are, but a mother always knows best, you can not overfeed a baby it’s impossible, they self regulate that’s literally their one job and that’s how they are. Also pretty hard to miss a hunger cue, if a baby is hungry, she won’t fall asleep, she will just cry and make hunger sounds/faces.
You are definitely not failing and don’t make anyone make you feel this way, you and baby are one, she literally lived in you for 9 months, so no health visitor or anyone for that matter would know better than you.

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