Is it weird my partner doesn’t invite me out with his friends?
Ok so my bd and I have been together almost 5 years and I’ve only hung out around his friends 1 time and that was only because his best friend mom told him to invite me because she wanted to meet me and our daughter at her birthday party. Aside from that he has never invited me out to hang with his friends, whenever I confront him on it he always says that he has invited me out with them in the past but I know that isn’t true whatsoever because I would remember something like that. He has hung out with my friends about 3-4 times collectively over the years, I had stopped inviting him out with us about 2-3 years ago because I noticed he was never inviting me out with his friends and then recently about 2 months ago I tried again and had him come out with my friends just to see if he would invite me out when him and friends go out and he didn’t and when I approached him on it, it had turned into a big argument.
So today I had tried again and had invited him out with me and my friends because we’re planning on going tailgating soon and when I asked him to go and told him if I’m not invited to one of his hangouts then to decline my offer and he told me to “keep my offer” if I’m going to constantly act as if he doesn’t reciprocate what I’m doing which he doesn’t. I had told him he’s only telling me to keep my offer because he knows he isn’t gonna ever invite me out with his and he said “it’s whatever” and to leave him alone. We had agreed on just him hanging out with his friends and I can hangout with mine separately but am I wrong for feeling the way I feel and am I being childish/petty???
*Sidenote: The only time he has invited me out was in the beginning of our relationship when he thought him and his friends were gonna be going out of town but they never went and recently he told me if him and his friends go to DreamCon (whenever that is) then he was gonna have me come but he has told me he doesn’t even think they are gonna go possibly*
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No I don’t hang out w his friends and I don’t want to. He has his boys nights I have my girls nights and occasionally we have a double/triple date w the wives too, but usually if he’s going to see his boys then I’ll be going to see my gfs a couple days later. My gfs are all mainly single and coparenting, they don’t have partners to bring anyway. His friends’ wives, usually stay home to look after the kids (we all are at the same time) while the boys go have their fun. I don’t find it weird. We have separate friends but occasionally do double dates. My girls nights are always all girls 💁🏻♀️
My husband always invites me to hang out with his friends ( I usually say no so he can get some guy time but sometimes I’ll say yes) 🧍🏻♀️ and he won’t go without me if there’s females involved and vis versa . Neither of us made it this way that’s just kinda always how it’s been 🤷🏻♀️ I guess it just depends on y’all’s relationship .
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