Idk if i can go through with this

Last week we found out im pregnant 1 year pp. Im just over 4 weeks and my appointment to terminate is tomorrow. It has taken a toll on my husband and I. We are both so upset about it but we just dont know if we can afford it. We live in literally the cheapest place ive seen in our city but it is so little and only a 2 bedroom (1 is already our daughters). I budgeted and I think maybe we'd have approximately $750 a month left over after all bills but we are in our early 20's and would like to buy a house hopefully around 30. Can we even make it work? How much does it cost to have another? I know people say you'll never regret having another baby but im just worried that if we arent able to afford our goals and dreams that ill be resentful and im also worried resentment will be built up more to my husband (he's not great at helping with everything but getting better). I just dont know what to do or if this is the right decision for us. Is there a chance we can make it work? How do you make it work with very little/cramped space? Moving is not an option sadly. And if we decide to have the baby i wouldn't be able to work for a few months afterwards so that would be -$600 a month (I do part time to stay with my kiddo). Im just so lost. Im not religious but I feel like im going to go to hell if I do this or I wont ever be the same. So many people are telling me oh it'll be over quick and then you can move on. This is a huge deal to me and I dont want it to just be forgotten about. Please help with any advice or anything

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I was in a somewhat similar situation I was unsure if I could do 2 beacuse it was a challenge with one … I got pregnant with my daughter at 8months pp … I kept the pregnancy I couldn’t live with the after math choice of thinking what “if” . It’s challenging but very sweet and special bond they have . My son is now on cow milk and my daughter is fully breastfed so it saved me money on formula , there dad also works 2 jobs so I can stay with the kids .. it is a lot of mental stress on him ..so we are thinking of alternating the schedule one of us will works part of the day and the other work afternoons/closings .. we know this isn’t a permanent thing the babies will eventually go to school around 3.5/4 years old and we can both work the jobs and times we desire but for now it’s sacrifices we will make to make it work.I hope this gives you a bit of hope that things do fall into place . . My kids share a room as well .

@Nancy at what point would you separate them due to different genders? Ive heard thats what people do? I dont even know what to do with that, and im worried baby will wake our daughter up but im not sure if we can fit a next to me or something in our room. I just want the best for them and I worry this will make us struggle but I also just dont think I can do it, I cry everytime I think about my appointment. It is such a struggle. And my husband really doesn't think we could afford it so id have to convince him if I dont want to go to the appointment tomorrow

what did you do babe

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅

8 month old cry alllll the time?

I keep thinking I’m doing something wrong..

My baby has always been a crier, car seat, pram seat, nappy changes, outfit changes, nap times etc.. first 6 months we put it down to reflux, I had a lot of advice from HV/ GP as I was really struggling.

He’s improved with his reflux but I think now we are in a constant state of teething.. (he has 6 teeth now) or am I just making an excuse for his constant crying?

I can’t go on pram walks, I can’t go on drives, I have to constantly hold him/ entertain him for him to stop crying. I feel like there can’t be something up with him because the moment I hold him or entertain him he’s so happy and giggles/ babbles!

I’m just wondering if anyone is going through something similar?