Getting angry

Posting as incognito because honestly i’m disgusted with myself but. My baby has been making me so irrationally angry lately. He only naps in 30 minute increments. I can’t get anything done all he does is cry and scream. He hates his swing now. He hates tummy time and floor time in general. He can’t keep his pacifier in his mouth and screams when he loses it. And it all makes me so angry. I’m so so tired. I get 1 full night of sleep awake i’m up with the baby at night and I have him all day while my boyfriend works. He spent a few hours with his grandma yesterday and I thought a break would make me feel better but all it’s done is make me get irritated faster. I feel like an absolute terrible mom I don’t know what to do. My family is no help. And my boyfriend has an overnight job this wednesday so i’m gonna be all alone for over 24 hrs and I just don’t want to be getting so mad at my baby anymore:(

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How old is your baby? Could you wear your baby? That often helps when they're unsettled.

Also have a look into safe cosleeping, it really helped my little one sleep better

Have you tried speaking to a GP/Health Visitor. This sounds like post partum depression x

Hello! I know how frustrating it is to not feel like you have what you need (sleep, help, etc) to even show up for your baby. Know that the crying will not last forever and you can get through this. When I find myself getting frustrated I take a deep breath (or a couple) and try to center myself. If you cannot identify what the child needs then offer comfort. Try baby wearing if that is an option. Mine tends to just want closeness. But that’s is just my 2 cents.

Motherhood is hard.. and I know it’s hard when’s they’re being like that mine is exactly the same at the moment.. I get upset sometimes as well but then I try to remember she is just a baby.. I’m by myself as well most the time as my husband works long hours. The days when she is really bad honesty I just leave all the house work and just focus on her as much as I can. I find that if you let them be to upset then it gets worse and worse.. so before she gets to the screaming stage I put her on the carrier and do some work if I can.. if she is still moody I take her and we go outtt it always works. And then when we come back she is always calmer. I used to get really upset as well and I think she could feel it and become more upset. Ever since I calmed down as well and I go with her pace when she’s fussy, it works wonders.. hang in there.. try to remember they are all phases with babies and soon it will pass. Your baby is probs going through a growth spurt. It always shifts.sleep/food

Sending you hugs. Echoing what others have said about seeking care to make sure this isn’t some PPD taking over as this can cause rage. Babywearing can also be your best friend. My little guy will happily nap in a carrier even at busy crowded places despite being an absolute fomo baby. Baby will also be close enough that you can easily pop the pacifier back in.

If you need a 10 minute break, let babu cry safely in another room. It’s ok to be human. Are there any mom groups in the area so you can find some in person emotional support? What about a postpartum doula to lighten the load?

Please feel free to reach out if you need a friend to just vent your frustrations to.

You can try to take baby on a walk. Most babies love the outdoors and a walk will help you get some time to yourself too.

And like everyone else said, wear your baby

Get outdoors! As much as you dont feel like it a walk always helps ! My son is 4 suspected autism and i have a 6 month old and even a walk round the block helps have you tried white noise for naps ? Thats what i use for my baby and it sends her to sleep and she stays asleep x

Oh and your doing amazing being a mum is hard !!

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅