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IVF MAMAS

Loss of friends

No one knew we were ttc and going through Ivf. We needed Ivf for pgtm testing for a shared genetic disorder. My worst fears came true when after failed transfers we got miraculously naturally pregnant and baby was affected. I had to TFMR. I became quiet and not part of my group bff of 3 groups texts for days. They reached out and I told them about my journey (but said a loss/miscarriage). I was almost 4months. And it killed me. Mine you my friend was also pregnant and due the same week as me with an “oops baby”. When i shared my news. I got the sorrys. But one friend checked out completely and never messaged me again. Ì wasnt looking for help or hangouts. But maybe a check-in ever few weeks? These are friends of 15++ years. She even had a big bday for her husband months later and didn’t invite me. And a mini baby shower sprinkle and didnt invite me. After all this we just all never spoke again. I congratulated her publicly on her pregnancy announcement but not birth after all those months. I wonder if her anger towards me is about that? Anyways. It’s a year later almost and I now have my baby born (after 3 transfers) and feel lonely that I lost my best friends. Whát would you do ?