Cooking dinner… we don’t seem to manage to cook for ourselves

I batch cook for our 2yo, after nursery it’s straight to the table for dinner for him. 3 course meal lol basically a main fruit and yoghurt. Then it’s clean up play bath book bed. By the time I’m downstairs again it’s probably 7.30 and I’m knackered. I work full time too. I’ve also snacked and probably eaten some of his food and leftovers etc from like 5 pm. So not super hungry. Hubby has various illnesses so hasn’t managed to get himself into cooking mode (fatigue etc). Pre baby we always ate freshly prepared dinner by like 6. So I’m wondering when it will get more manageable

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Would it not be possible to batch cook meals for all 3 of you? Saves you cooking on an evening after work and nursery and that way you’re all eating the same meals together. My 19 month old eats the exact same food as us every night, we just make it baby friendly like low salt low sugar etc

It's not easy. My kid has homemade soups in jars, I heat one up and feed her first. Then we make hello fresh meal that we ordered temporarily. Or make something simple for us. Sometimes, she tries some of our food. Husb is home by 7 pm. Then it's play, bath, books and bed. We eat very late. I'm working on it.

Why do you eat differently to your kid? I think eating the same would be easier?

Definitely easier if you all eat the same thing. And even easier if you eat at the same time!

Slow cookers are the best thing ever! Chuck all the ingredients in first thing and then by the evening you have a home cooked healthy meal.

We eat together at 6/6:30 otherwise the adults don't get to eat. Bedtime sometimes doesn't finish until 8:30/9 so we're too tired by then.

I only make one thing and everyone eats it 😂 it’s a non negotiable in our house. Since having my second 5 weeks ago I’ve been getting hello fresh starting two weeks ago which has been a sanity saver! They have loads of options and means it’s one less thing for me to figure out with two under two

Yea , I mean I eat salads and stuff. He doesn’t eat that. He eats pastas and veg etc. I’ve tried giving him what we eat but he doesn’t like med veg or salads 🤷‍♀️ do I just say… too bad? Eat it or don’t?

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅