For those that filed for divorce how did you do it?

I’m in California, I want to file a no context to get it over and done with the cheapest way possible.
I’m a stay at home mom with 2 little ones. I’m trying to map out and plan this out. This is definitely a financial strain but want to get some advice on how to do this as smart as possible.

You know when you get that moment that you’re just done?
I’ve cried to be taken to dates, nope.
I’ve asked questions of like what would you like to do or travel with and met with I just don’t think of that stuff.
I’ve been told I’m not their person and God made a mistake.
I just can’t handle it anymore.
I fantasize about a love and one that will find me.
I just prayed that I could’ve save my kids from having a broken family. He came from one too but he’s just so set in making this marriage fail than using that same energy to fix it.
I don’t have room to voice my pain because he rolls his eyes and says it’s a waste of time and never wants to have hard conversations.
This marriage feels over, it’s been over. Trying to connect with someone that blames me for their lack of accountability if just beyond frustrating.
Just sucks I can’t mention being disappointed hurt or the things he does that bother me because it’s like nope shut up here we go again.
I had a miscarriage earlier this year and it wasn’t met with we lost our twins.
More like I lost them. I wanted them and he was relieved that they passed. I lose sleep crying for them and he doesn’t seem to be affected and when I tried to mention that I did have some post partum depression of the twins he’s like oh okay sure the miscarriage that happened 3 months ago get over it. Only now I’m just catching myself venting but yeah you ladies get the point. Being called a man because I don’t have room to be feminine in a survival mode hurts. I’m ready to heal and find a way to not let this touch my kids as less as possible.

in our community

Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Roles between a sthm and a working partner?

I started wondering if our arrangement makes any sense. When I was pregnant I saw a cute video of a couple where they sleep seperately, the mom takes care of the baby during the night, the husband wakes up early in the morning takes over so the woman sleeps a bit before he gets to work I suggest this arrangement to my husband and we both liked it. Since I gave birth to my 22 month old boy, we are sleeping separately, I’m taking care of everything. My toddler still wakes up during the night every two hours on average. I wake up in the morning to make his breakfast and drive him to the train station and pick him up later in the day. I clean and cook and take care of my boy, with no appreciation or thank you. If I say I’m tired it turns he’d say what are you doing all day or he’d remind me of how he’s paying for everything. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and I don’t feel this is how a team should work.

Water

My LO is 10 months old and I try and offer him water with meals but he will only take a couple of sips. I’ve tried adding freshly made apple juice to sweeten it a bit, in case this would entice him, but he still refused. I think if it’s not milk, he doesn’t want it, or it’s odd to him.

Any tips?

Married couples…who handles car maintenance in your household?

Oil changes, tune ups, tires, car washing/vacuuming, etc

Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds