Mental health and parenting support

So my partner knows I suffer with a lot of mental health issues included suspected autism and today my daughter kept coming at me covered in sauce and that Is a major issue for me (I hate sauce I have a phobia of ketchup and any sauce touching me will make me physically sick) . I try my best to keep calm around my daughter cause I don't want her to see that but he saw I was struggling and he just watches until I snap... He has done this in loads of other situations as well where I have literally had to beg for help cause I'm over stimulated and struggling to regulate my emotions. He works 6 days a week so he doesn't have to deal with any of this and he doesn't help when he is of work either so I'm basically raising her myself (to the point she won't go near him. She won't let him put her to bed and she hates being left alone with him). I had nice plans tonight for Halloween but now I have been kicked out as I'm being ridiculous, which makes it hurt more as I really want my daughter to have a good childhood as I grew up in care and never experienced a proper family life. I try to speak to him and he always puts the blame on me, even for stupid things like I was really ill and I asked him to clean and then I had to get up and do it myself putting myself in more pain (suspected chronic illness) and then he said it was my fault I should of just left it. (He knows I can't sleep unless the house is clean). I'm not happy in this relationship but I'm not in a stable enough position yet to look after her on my own (still awaiting therapy and only just got rid of social services) NHS said they can't offer me any therapy so looking at options as the therapist they gave me said i was too complicated due to my personality disorder

in our community

Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Appropriate age to go out

I am the kind of person who struggles with being at home all day, not good for my mental health. I have a 1 month old and I am trying to start doing things with her. Like going ti the park, running errands. But people seem surprised and kind of judgy that I am out with the baby at her age. Is this wrong?

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Roles between a sthm and a working partner?

I started wondering if our arrangement makes any sense. When I was pregnant I saw a cute video of a couple where they sleep seperately, the mom takes care of the baby during the night, the husband wakes up early in the morning takes over so the woman sleeps a bit before he gets to work I suggest this arrangement to my husband and we both liked it. Since I gave birth to my 22 month old boy, we are sleeping separately, I’m taking care of everything. My toddler still wakes up during the night every two hours on average. I wake up in the morning to make his breakfast and drive him to the train station and pick him up later in the day. I clean and cook and take care of my boy, with no appreciation or thank you. If I say I’m tired it turns he’d say what are you doing all day or he’d remind me of how he’s paying for everything. I am emotionally and physically exhausted and I don’t feel this is how a team should work.

Water

My LO is 10 months old and I try and offer him water with meals but he will only take a couple of sips. I’ve tried adding freshly made apple juice to sweeten it a bit, in case this would entice him, but he still refused. I think if it’s not milk, he doesn’t want it, or it’s odd to him.

Any tips?

Teething

Does this look like she’s teething? She’s been so irritable, dribbling SO BAD, like I’m having to change her sleepsuit 3 times a day. Chewing on absolutely everything. She’s 4.5 months old.

Thank you ☺️