Is it weird that my husband has me do all the communicating about his daughter with his ex wife
My husband has me communicate with his ex wife about all things regarding their daughter, my step daughter. He said it's a respect thing towards me that he shouldn't be communicating or interacting with her unless necessary, that its inappropriate for them to be speaking or something. I understand to a degree but this constantly puts me in an awkward position when disagreements happen and I end up referring her to reach out to him instead. I understand we're married so we're united but most of the miscommunication comes from the split time and he's the one who made the custody arrangement with her. It just puts me in the middle like I'm communication for both of them. I have children with another person as well and I communicate with him, not my husband. We even use a court appointed coparenting app. Granted our situations are not the same, but I'm starting to feel like its not about being respectful towards me to not be communicating with his ex wife but a way to avoid his responsibility. Idk
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Yeah definitely a way of avoiding that responsibility, I’d tell him that y’all can be in a group chat where you communicate so you’re included but as his daughters father he is responsible for communication with the mother of his child
Definitely weird. You shouldn’t have to play middle man. I get your the step mom and that’s great you take on that big role but that’s not your responsibility you shouldn’t have to do that.
My husband does all the communication. I try not to interact with the kids bio mom as much as possible.
Definitely not normal. I have zero communication with my husband’s ex unless it’s something female related about his daughter that my stepdaughter is embarrassed for her dad to know, so then her mom will tell me directly. My husband is 100% responsible for coordinating everything with his ex. If it’s something that will affect me or something I need to know, he will just let me know about it.
It not typically normal but considering there is a court appointed app that usually means they tend to have issues with communicating with each other where disagreement probably happens more often with each other than when you do the communication.
They probably bring out the worst in each other most of the time… they don’t require these parenting apps for the fun of it. I can only assume that their divorce was somewhat high conflict.
My partner & I have our threads with the co parents. My partner works a lot & sometimes forgets to communicate certain things so we all agreed this is better for the kids so no one misses important information regarding the children since we’re all on the same page. If he can’t get to a message I’ll jump in or the same for my daughter & her dad. As long as it’s not an issue & it’s comfortable for everyone I don’t really see it being a problem.
The ex wife is his not yours, so I do think it’s his responsibility to be reaching out. This life isn’t easy, it comes with the territory of a blended family and it goes without saying that the ex is always gonna be involved. When everyone gets remarried, new partners, new kids, new homes, you still have to keep in touch because of the kids. So nothings gonna change anytime soon with the ex wife. They have a custody arrangement as a guideline all he needs to do is enforce it. stick to the schedule as much as possible to make it easier for everyone involved. They should both be able to openly ask “hey I have a question about my weekend can I switch it for xyz” “yeah that works” As long as they’re mutually agreeing and communicating what they’re asking for. Otherwise it’s always gonna put you in a bad spot of uhhh idk ask my husband. It’s an easy way for ur husband not to deal with anything and have the ex wife get upset with you even tho ur just the messenger.
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