Newborn trenches how are we surviving ?
I’m a FTM and honestly I love my partner even more but there’s moments where I just hate him and can’t stand him I’m trying to heal from a traumatic labour and it’s like he just wants to chill as he used to on the Xbox etc not realising he can’t really do that anymore like not without sorting the baby first
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The only thing i can suggest is frank communication! Even with an extremely attentive and hands on husband/FTD, we still have to be specific and direct with our needs. Whilst remember anything said rn isn't personal, it's with the baby as the priority🖤
I hope he starts to realise that you need to be looked after physically, emotionally and psychologically during this process. But it is a 2 way street, meaning so does he, maybe ask him if gaming helps with his MH? See how it can be incorporated in without it leaving you isolated or resentful. I love to read, so during pregnancy I'd go sit in the spare room while he VG'd. I just needed to be near him. Now we have baby, I'd just ask him to hold him a bit or have moses basket in with him so you get a bit of free time❤️
True communication is needed and I know it's difficult when hormones are all over to have those conversations as I know I get so teary which I am not like but you just need to say not in an argumentive way what you need and what your struggling with .
The Xbox would be thrown out the window in my house 🤣
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