Unsure if he’s into me?
Hey ladies! Let me start mentioning that I’m Mexican and have never dated American guys.
So I recently joined hinge and have been texting with this guy for over a month. He seems nice and we have meet once (somehow my idea!) on that first date everything went good and we came to my apartment and it happen! We had sex. He as pretty decent and didn’t rush it the moment we got inside my apartment! He assembled my stationary bike for me and then we got into my couch talk for a bit and then started kissing!
We kissed for a little while! Until I kind of touch his hand and then he moved it and the rest is unnecessary.
This was last week nov 7, we have been texting and taking on the phone as usual but he takes A LOT to answer texts, he’s a farmer and works a lot, but usually he can take up to 2-4 hours to answer messages.
He told me he liked me after we meet and we are definitely seeing each other. On the past I’ve asked him if he would like to date if we meet and like each other, he say yes of Course he would want to. Two days ago I asked him how did he see thing moving forward or what where his intentions. I’ve told him that I’m straight forward and not into playing games (I’m 31 he’s 37) he say that he is looking for someone to have a long term relationship with. And I mentioned that I was looking for the same and this far I like how things are going, after I send the text I was like FUCK! Haha I just assumed it was with me idk?? And I say “wait.. are we trying that together ” and he say “haha what do you mean?” Oh god I wanted to die! Haha and well I just say “I mean, are we trying something here?!😂🫣” and he say “Well yeah I thought so hahaha” and I end up saying “Haha just wanted to make sure we were on the same page 😘” worth mentioning every text he took that amount of time I mentioned to answer!! So that freak me out!
But after our first date there’s been a decent amount of sexy talk! Which I’m
Ok with but I DO NOT want a friends with benefits relationship! So know I don’t know what’s going on.
He hasn’t say when are we meeting again, but yesterday when we were on the phone he told me he wanted to see me and I just say “me toooo!” But didn’t wanted to ask like when! He has mentioned he wants me to cook for you, visit his house etc! But as I mentioned I’ve never dated an American guy and I don’t know if he’s interested?! Yesterday I asked him his last name and he told me but didn’t ask for mine?? Worth mentioning sex was great. But is all this “he’s interested actually” or not? I’ve only dated Mexican guys and when they are interested they make time, they text fast, etc! Please advice! I really like this guy! What yall think?
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Hey girl I’m Mexican too and my husband is American it sounds like he’s into you they’re more open minded and they jump to have sex quick don’t let that trick you, my husband and I met on February last year we had sex soon after that and we got married on April 2024 we’ve been together since then and we just had our beautiful baby boy on September this year
Don’t overthink it. From reading this it definitely seems like he likes you. Take your time enjoy the ride 😌
Him not texting right away etc etc doesn’t mean he’s not interested.
Sorry just taking notes as I read adding little comments here and there
1: I personally never had a positive experience on hinge everyone is different though.
2: nice is one thing sex on the first date though. Little bit on the rushing side. Again everyone is different though
3: good that he didn’t rush in the moment though. That’s a good quality to have that he put together the stationary bike . Shows he is good with hands if you know what I mean lol. Not in a dirty way but you know what I mean.
4: ok well him moving his hand could mean many things let’s not try to get in our head too much. Could mean anything, again taking his time to reply could again mean anything good thing to keep in mind though
5: well he said he liked you and is definitely seeing you so that’s something not a bad thing . He said yes to dating which might be a sign he is invested.
6: yes never be ashamed to ask intentions you want to make things plan. Yes you made your intentions clear . (adding on )
7: (Little bit of an age difference not a bad thing iv seen worse age just a number )
Good that he is looking for long term.
8: with the sexy talk I would just take things slow , make it known if your comfortable or uncomfortable communication is key . (Make it known to him that you are not comfortable with friends with benefits)
9: yesss girl let him cook for you . There was a good one I let go and lost touch with that offered to cook for me I hated myself ever since I missed the opportunity.
10: on the last name I think he should ask more Questions that’s for sure .
My main take away from this all. I would just work on communication issues from his side . Add In input . I wouldn’t say he isn’t intrested. I would just take it slow , and make sure you and him are equally growing and making progress. I would just say he needs a little work communicating better .
Girl just chill out. Literally relax. He says he is into you. Why are you questioning it? Your question should be, “Am I actually into him?” If he’s a farmer, he’s busy all the time. That’s a good thing, it means he’s hardworking. Don’t rush. Just let things happen. If he doesn’t want to meet up in a couple of weeks, maybe he’s not the one. Or AFTER some time, ask him why he hasn’t asked to see you. Like it’s not that deep at this point. I hope everything works out for you!
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