My spouse has horrible hygiene and I can't get passed it
My spouse struggles with mental health issues and does not take care of himself and its causing me tk feel unattracted to him. He showers like once or twice a week shaves once a month and brushes his teeth like once every two weeks. I know it can be hard when you're struggling so hard but I dont want to have sex with him I dont want to kiss him and I dont know how to tell him without hurting his feelings. I encourage him to shower with me and brush his teeth when I brush his teeth but most of the times its "too late" at night or hes gonna eat or something. I feel torn but like he'll ask me for sex and favors and I avoid it at all costs
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Sometimes with men you just have to be blunt with them. Literally say how you feel don’t beat around the bush. Say how can I be attracted to you or want to be intimate if you’re not clean or you haven’t brushed your teeth in two weeks. Also when babies sleeping you could take the monitor in the shower together and then get intimate there if you want to go about it that way
My baby daddy had the worst hygiene ever , I had to have a sit down conversation of course I was careful with my wording that if he didn’t start taking care of himself and doing a better job at being present he couldn’t see his son until he got some help. Which I was very gentle , but germs are bad for the baby
Wow who can walk around without brushing their teeth and their mouth tasting funny? 🫢
He needs to brush his teeth especially in the morning. I am sorry you are dealing with this. I am weird bc i like how my guy’s sweat smells but he actually cleans himself too much and puts on cologne that makes me sneeze sometimes and I prefer some of his natural smell, but I cannot stand morning breath or bad breath in general. He has to have serious dental issues going that long between brushings. Maybe you can brush for him or bring the toothbrush to him in bed? I have actually had my husband do this for me when I injured my back and couldn’t get around well this past October. Depression is very hard. Maybe getting him a foot bath or drawing him baths would encourage him too. It’s a-lot to take care of an adult and child but he may really need that while dealing with mental illness.
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