my partner wants me to get an abortion
like the title says my partner wants me to get an abortion.
Im 11 weeks and we have a 19 month old.
He told me last night he doesnt want a second child and thinks I should get an abortion but wont talk to me further about it at the moment.
I see why hes worried, were low income, dont drive yet and only in a 2 bed flat. But I feel like hes waited too long to say something? is 11 weeks too far along? I feel guilty just thinking about it.
Im scared if I dont get an abortion he'll leave and ill struggle with 2 kids on my own (i have no family support)
Please let me know what you would do
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I think you need to be pretty firm with him and say that this needs to be a proper adult discussion. Simply insisting on an abortion and refusing to discuss it isn't going to cut it.
As for what you do moving forward, that ultimately is up to you but without a proper discussion you won't be able to come to that decision.
Sadly this is not something that we can help you with. This is something that you and your partner need to sit down and have a talk about and go through all your options.
I think the latest you can have an abortion in the UK is 12 weeks and anything beyond that would be a medical abortion which would be performed in circumstances where there’s something wrong with the baby. Have a chat with your midwife as well about this as she’ll be the best person to ask about this as they’ll be able to offer support to you both x
You two need to have a proper discussion about this! But at the end of the day, it is your body and your choice!
You both need to talk, like this is a big thing he can’t just say he won’t talk to you further about it that’s like giving you the end of that conversation and basically saying this is what you will do!! Also you have to make sure it’s what you want because if you do it ultimately to just stay in that relationship and please him, further down the the line you will resent him for it and that relationship will not last. If it was me and I wanted the baby I would be keeping the baby and he would either adjust to it or I would do it alone X
I had 2 babies when 18and 20 yrs wasn’t driving and also had little family support, lived with bf and we had lit fuck all money. And him being immature at the time was always out or gaming so I did it all alone up till he grow up, so up till there teens pretty much 🫠😬 but it’s 100% do-able.
If he not discussed it further and not interested then balls in ur court, what do you want to do? If u want ur baby I’d say make sure to get on some good birth control after and if he don’t want to stick around then at least u will have ur 2 babies and will find away to do do it without him. x
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