Preventing a Velcro baby

They hit a stage where they get separation anxiety I'm sure
And depending how old baby is, they may not yet know they're a separate person to you

She can still grow up being close with her family, this stage won't last forever x

How old is she?

Ask yourself if you really think this is a problem or if you feel this way because of advice or warnings from outside your unit. Just the term velcro baby is giving outdated advice/unrealistic expectations. Babies are supposed to feel attached to us, the number one indicator of good outcomes for children is a strong attachment to a parent. They are biologically wired to want us close, as they cannot take care of themselves. Responsiveness ≠ a rod for your back.

I get that you are in childcare and clearly have much more experience than me but I really feel that your expectations are inappropriate for a 3 month old. I firmly believe that providing responsiveness and attachment is the remedy to children who are clingy/only want to be with mom and dad/cry when put down, not the cause, but it's your prerogative to disagree with me 🩷 Hopefully someone will be able to provide some advice that better aligns with what you're looking for

Aww okay, she is still pretty young and I wouldn't be too concerned about it. I definitely see where your concerns are and wanting to prioritize her feeling safe and developing relationships with family. I would suggest that you help her gradually get accustomed to being apart from you. Like what you are doing already, but maybe find a predictability or routine to make it easier for her to adjust. For example, have a family member hold her only while she is taking the bottle (have them hold her and REMAIN CALM until she takes the bottle) and hand her back to you when she is done. Or only hand her off for 5 minutes increments at a time and gradually increase from there. You can try to give her something to hold or wear that smells like you.
Honestly, these phases come and go so quickly. Before you know it, she will be walking away from you and going to play with friends without looking back. 😄🥲

Absolutely normal, phases will come and go plenty. It can be to do with brain development, sometimes the 'leaps and spurts' graphic can be helpful, of course remembering that not all children will go through the same thing at the same time, or it can seem to be for no reason at all.

I want to say that I think it's great that you are concerned and asking questions. I can tell you really want the best for your little one. I'd recommend mentioning concerns about sudden changes in behavior with baby's pediatrician. It really sounds like normal development since she is 3 months and they go through so many rapid changes in the first few years of life.
There are many different theories and I have seen so many arguments on this app alone about always holding baby when they need, crying it out, old school, new school, this study said, that study said. You are the one that decides what interventions you'd like to use or not use with your baby. I am sure you and she will be just fine. I do recommend seeking healing in whatever form you find most helpful (psychotherapy, yoga, dance or art therapy, Journaling, life coaching, singing, eating healthier, working out, etc etc) I believe you can pass anxiety onto your little one, so it is very important that you learn to take control over your symptoms.