As a single momma how long after a break up do you start dating?! 🥴
Back story I was with my son's father for 6 years before I got pregnant with his child... I basically did the pregnancy alone cause he lives in a different state. Long story short, I started seeing his true colors. I REALLY want nothing to do with him but we do have a child together so I try my hardest to be amicable and not to come off bitter (because I feel betrayed and hurt by some of the things I learned about him in the past year)
Now my son is one. We are going into the new year. I'm 34, I want more kids, I want a family with an HONEST man with pure heart (praying one exist for me). Dating sucked in my 20s... now in my 30s WITH A CHILD I'm like 😫 But I'm wondering is it too soon? Are guys open to dating single moms with toddlers? Idk what the dating landscape is looking. I'm scared, but I also feel like my clock is ticking I don't wanna wait too long to have another child 😩
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If you are comfortable and mentally ready go for it I am currently going thru a similar thing married for 6 years 2 kids together and now separated for 6 months and started talking to other people
You have to be slow and weigh the situation, are you mentally and emotionally ready for a relationship? Does your schedule allow and extra person [ dating] what are your goals..
I feel you, I am 32 yrs single mom of 1 ,4yrs old girl who is already asking me when I will get pregnant coz she loves kids and wants a sister!!
Jeez I'm mentally and emotionally ready but the financial part is waiting for atleast 1 yr from now.
Secondly finding a partner is not even fun 😕 jeez I am a nurse / own house but still naaaah
So, not exactly the same situation, but... I lost my first husband when I was 32. I gave myself a full year to mourn and prepare myself, because at the end of the day, I was 32 and wanted to build a family.
In my new single status for the first time in ten years, and after COVID, I ended up diving a little more into dating apps.
Since I did want to have a family and it felt like that clock was ticking, I considered dating single parents, so I came upon Stir. They're a dating app that caters to single parents.
Ultimately, I did find my now husband on Coffee Meets Bagel, where the people felt more real to me. But, yeah, Stir was kinda cool.
Depends on how serious you’re looking for a relationship. If you’re just looking to have some fun and date around then go for it but if you’re looking for something serious and to settle down for real, I would take your time. That’s what I’m doing. I just got out of a 12 year relationship. I am in no rush to be finding anybody for me.
I can't reply to your reply, but I just wanted to say that that was my long winded way of saying there's options out there for people who get it!
I would try dating apps first. Start out talking to people and get a feel for them. You might just like the “online company” for the time being before launching into full on dating. I think your mom would (hopefully) understand if you spoke to her about how you are feeling & ask her if she would be okay with looking after your child while you went on a date.
Not too soon at all go start dating hunni you do you xx
I met the love of my life at 30 years old, divorced from my son’s dad. We met at a country dance hall in Dallas. NO APPS. Apps will not help in this situation. You’re going to find another divorcee and I highly recommend finding one who already has kids. Churches can be great places. Trampoline parks with kids. Singles meetups. The gym. I would just highly caution you not to put yourself on the apps- don’t directly compete with 25 year old childless girls.
If you use the apps, you just have to be so careful and meticulous in your screening. I tried Stir, which was great in terms of finding men who also have kids and understand the challenges in dating with kids. You would have to really know how to weed out the fake from the real pretty quick. I went as far as looking up mens' ex wives facebooks and looking to see if they posted about narcissistic men or abuse or cheaters.
Know what you are looking for in a man. Not looks, but character. I cannot stress enough how important it is to know what qualities you are looking for and know how to vet someone. If you want a patient man, go on a date where he will have to have patience like an escape room or a corn maze. If you want a calm man, take him somewhere he may be provoked like a bar or crowded space. If you want a man who is good with kids, go on a date to a family friendly place like a zoo, where you would see whether or not he complains about kids or smiles at the chaos that children can be.
My little boy was almost 2 when I met my new partner. It was a little strange at first, id never been on a date as a mum or as someone in my 30s.
We are now engaged and expecting a baby any day now. I never thought I could ever be lucky enough to have this life - so you just never know whats round the corner for you!
I really hope everything works out well for you x
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