I never could blame the “side chicks” or “homewrecker”

Honestly id only excuse it if she didn't know. Both can be morally in the wrong in different ways. He betrays your vows, she knowingly slept with a man who has a wife. Intentionally knowing you're causing trauma and pain onto another woman's horrible imo. And betraying someone's trust by dishonoring your vows and sleeping with someone while married is horrible as well.

If the girl didn’t know then I’m gonna be on my husbands ass but even if I don’t know this woman….if this woman knew about me IM ON HER ASS AS WELL BECAUSE NOW YOU’VE DISRESPECTED ME AS WELL! Gotta get cha! Fist to Face!

The only time I think she should not be blamed is if she didn't know. Its so not cool to be with a man if you know hes in a relationship ESPECIALLY if there are kids involved

Woah so does the word Homewrecker offend u or was it the fact that ur Husband who is a man called u that during a huge arguement? Because u said “I don’t understand why ppl attack/hate the side girl or mistress if she doesn’t know the wife or gf “personally” and u go on to say “it’s a
Weird concept that women tend to hate a stranger & not the man….” so I’m confused is this defensive energy with ur actions towards ur Husband for calling u a homewrecker or are u jus wanting validation from other random women in the internet.
I think it doesn’t matter if the woman knows the wife/gf “personally” or not. U are not excused of ur questionable behavior jus becuase u didn’t know the Husband or partners wife/gf quote on quote personally.
And men are not being forced to cheat, bt it speaks volumes to the fact that when they do there are jezebels who don’t care abt being “side chicks” and “homewrecker”

And one thing I love abt this universe is ppl will be held accountable whether they like it or not, it called Karma. Everyone reaps what they sew. So ur right the side chick shouldn’t be held accountable by the wife/gf cuz how can u be mad at a stranger? Bt Karma will always make sure the person is held accountable. U can’t cause spiritual chaos in ppls lives and expect to remain untouched. What goes around limits definitely come back around. Ur turn will surely come

I dont care if I know a girl personally or not. If she sleeps with my partner or anyone else's knowing that about the marriage or relationship she's trash. I agree that the husband is doing wrong by your relationship and is the one who destroyed the relationship but if the side piece knows they're still a shitty person.

If she didn’t know at all I wouldn’t be mad at her. If you know they’re in a relationship and still fw them, you’re not a girls girl. At all. It’s the guys responsibility to be loyal, yes. But let him find someone else. His colors will show and your conscience will be clear. You are also being disrespectful AF if you know they’re in a relationship. Idgaf if I know you or not. You know about me, that’s enough for me to hate you as well. That’s a dirty and disgusting way of thinking

I think morally. If you see a man is in a relationship… don’t try to get with him? It shows you lack respect. Yes even having respect for a stranger. Use the classic rule taught in elementary. “Treat others how you want to be treated.” It shows you lack empathy for breaking up a family. It shows a lack of respect for yourself to even choose a man that would leave a wife and kids. It shows that your lust is more powerful than your moral compass. And worst of all? You lack any remorse. The evil cherry on top of an evil Sunday. I’d be mad at the husband, and mad at you. Yes you’re a stranger. But who wouldn’t be upset at the moral decline of the world around them. (Not like I’d come fight you. Or degrade you. But wow… just wow)

It is a sin to cause others to sin.

Is it the user or the drug dealer’s fault when someone dies of overdose? The user, but the drug dealer is still is POS.

If you know a man is not available and you make yourself available to him anyway, you’re both wrong, but you’re just being evil for the sake of being evil. You don’t know what stress he has at home, or if he’s lonely. He can’t ever rectify his marriage if you get involved. He’s in a weak, vulnerable position and you took advantage of that. You have very directly facilitated the children being raised in a broken, dysfunctional household.

He owes you loyalty, but that doesn’t excuse the woman from being a soulless monster. I wouldn’t even befriend someone who did this.

There are 2 people to blame. You knew they had partners so you were the enabler in the destruction of his partner. Of course the man is to blame too, but that doesn't erase your part in the affair. I've always been Horrified when finding out a man who was showing interest in me was married, because he's essentially seeking acceptance from me in his weakness. If I give that to him, shame on me

My 20yo daughters father had a pregnant fiancé at home while he was out with me pretending to be younger and living at home with his parents(also gave me a fake name) none of which I learned about until I ran into him when our daughter was a toddler and he confessed all as it explained why he completely ghosted me after I announced my pregnancy. He never lost her or the family they had together because of it and I believe that my daughter is still a secret he hasn’t told a single soul about so as the ‘other woman’ who didn’t know it,I agree that I wouldn’t consider myself a homewrecker even if she HAD found out about me and left him. But women who know he already has someone and a family and go there anyway,are absolutely homewreckers! They may not owe that wife/partner their loyalty but neither do they owe them a role in destroying their relationship/family. If he’s going to cheat,he will but it sure as hell won’t be with me!!

I've read your comments and see that you experienced SA from very young. All i can say to that is hurt people hurt people. Themselves most of all though. I wonder if you can look back and see how you were self harming by accepting men who were not available, leaving yourself repeatedly abandoned by your own set up. When a person is in the practice of self harming they don't have the capacity to care for collateral damage or the harm they do to others. I'm not saying you weren't responsible because of that, you were still an adult, but it sounds like you had unprocessed trauma. And you need to first take responsibility for that. Self parent and heal yourself

I personally wouldn't hate when the other woman doesn't know that for example he is married or has someone or has kids but it would be a different situation when she knows that he is married for example with kids.