New girl
Me and my baby daddy broke up, but I am still in love with him, but I’m trying and working on getting over him, he has a new girlfriend, (btw we have a 2year together) anyways sometime I wanna hangout with him but at my place cuz I feel uncomfortable and unwelcome over at his place, he new girl doesn’t want him around me alone, which I get I understand where she’s coming from, but I’m just now in a good mindset to be around him and his new girl, I already have to think about about it and respect his wishes cuz he does tell me he doesn’t want us no more, but his my best friend and I just wanna hangout as friends and friends alone, I knew this man since we was 13 and 15, his my everything, I just wanna hangout as friends at my place without his new girl there, am I wrong for not inviting her to come to my new home?, again I’m not in good mindset space to be around it, I’m already slowly accepting it in my mind and my heart, thoughts?
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i personally would hate it if i found out my boyfriend was seeing his ex “ as a friend “ when she still likes him, and has a child with him , not trying to sound harsh but would you have liked it if he did that to you ( genuinely asking )
For your own emotional sake, just focus on the child. Don’t hurt yourself by being around him. Once you know you are completely over him, then yeah you guys may go back to being friends.
Also know, if he’s completely moved on from you and is in a new relationship ( either this or a new one in future) he’s gonna do what’s right for him, and that may mean you are just co-parents and nothing more.
I think you need to let him go completely. Of course still co parent and be cordial but that's it. I say this for your own sake. You said he's your everything, there is no way for you to just be friends with him if this is how you currently feel. I know its hard but if you try to force the friendship its gonna be harder.
Thank u guys, I’m trying
I got a similar story it’s hard
Go ahead and get on a dating app sis ..
if he wanted to be friends he would.
Just focus on yourself and your child and finding some friends and someone new ..
It’s really really hard for me to focus on me, 21 years old, I have couples not friends but 1 just want me to do everything in her house for her, and the other they live cross town and don’t have a way to get to me and I don’t have a way to get to them, they don’t live alone, 1 still lives with their mom and the other is homeless
I would stop contacting him unless it is regarding your child and your child only. It doesn’t sound like you’re in a place emotionally for you to be friends with him. You won’t be able to move on and heal from him until you have the space to do so. Your only focus should be your child and you. You can do this, I promise mama 🫶
Definitely focus on learning life without this man. Thats the hard truth, but it is the truth.
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