Bd drama
Hey mamas so I have a almost 3 year old and me and his father live 2 hrs away from each other I have our son 24/7 he recently just had another kid that is 2 months old and he is now refusing to let our son stay at his house his words are (he is not aloud till she is older and sleeping though the night) not even for a couple hrs I need help idk what to do. I live in Illinois he lives in Indiana last time he saw him I dropped him off without notice because he did not want to answer the phone can I get in trouble for that or no even with custody or anything.
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Respectfully, I would just respect what he’s asking and just be patient. I don’t think it’s worth tarnishing your coparenting skills with him. If he doesn’t want to see his son, that’s on him. I highly recommend against just dropping your son off without notice because your son is going to potentially feel the tension. I understand your frustration, but it seems like he’s just asking for patience.
But just dropping your son off without notice could cause more harm than good. As a child of a broken home myself, I hated when my dad would just drop me off at my moms when she didn’t want me there after my baby brother was born bc I felt isolated and unwanted. My dad stopped doing that after a while but it did hurt my relationship with both parents at that time. Again, just a suggestion bc I will never support just dropping a child off without notice. I understand the message trying to be conveyed but it could go very wrong.
Agreed- don’t drop your child
Off anywhere unannounced; that causes trauma for your child. Your arguing could depict that the child isn’t “wanted” by his dad because it’s always drama when he’s dropped off… Allow children to grab their own view of each parent, trust time unfolds everything...
I can understand having a newborn; with their immune system developing I understand having the baby at bay from other small children.. but that’s still his child and they’re siblings.
I disagree that’s wrong. It’s not an every day thing why can’t he come over for a weekend????
At least you’re willing to drive. We having the same problem with my hubby BM he wants to get kids more she doesn’t even meet us
I mean this with all the love, but why would you take your child anywhere unannounced? It sounds like he’s just trying to get through the newborn stage of the baby’s life and trying to navigate that. What if he wasn’t home and you dropped him off not knowing if he was home? I understand needing help, so maybe hire a nanny for a few hours each week or ask a family member to watch your child for a little bit to give you a break.
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