AITA for telling my family not to come over for my 2 yo bday 1 week before Christmas - because they were sick? It’s flu season!! And Christmas & I have kids!! And no one helps me at home.
If I get sick, I’m on my own. They claimed they weren’t contagious, I said I don’t want to take the risk with my kids right before Christmas. My sis was on meds only 2 days, my mom told me only 2 days before how she called in sick & was fighting a “terrible” cold & felt awful. It’s flu season! My kids’ immunity is down because they just had a cold.
We weren’t even having a party, just ordered in food & cake, only my MIL came over. I told them we might as well stay apart so we can all be healthy to hang out for Christmas. They kept arguing with me, I told them I don’t have energy or time for that.
Then NOBODY texted or called me or my son to wish him a happy bday all day!! At 8pm I sent a group text to my family asking if anyone was going to before he went to bed, 1 finally FaceTimed, said sorry he forgot what day it was cause he was out earlier dealing with his friend who’s dying, ok no problem I understand, thanks for the apology, he had already sent gifts a month prior. The other 2 called & gave me the cold shoulder asking if they can talk to him, then got all excited.
I told my mom I was hurt & upset & felt like she’s giving me a hard time, she said “I get that, but…”, then days later said she acknowledges my feelings & apologizes that my son’s bday “slipped her mind”, but he’s very important to her.
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Nope you’re not the asshole and I get how you feel about the whole birthday thing, my daughter is 4 and only had one actual birthday party because of family drama or because of illness. Whatever is going around now is brutal my girls had it a week before Christmas now my parents household has it too.
Not the a-hole. Especially with Christmas birthdays, mine and my lo’s birthdays are in December and it’s hard juggling holidays, birthday then illnesses on top of that. They should have respected your boundaries and called. I have a big family and rarely does anyone forget to wish each other a happy birthday. Even my friend I see once a YEAR still calls me on my birthday
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