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✨ AITA? ✨

Aita for telling my sister in law i don’t trust her kid alone with mine?

Fist, about the in laws for context. My sil has 2 kids, a boy 4yrs/old and Girl 18m/old. I have a Boy 12m/old. I want other girl and my Boy to be best friends cause they roughly the same age and he needs peers since I don’t have many friends with kids. But her Boy is really aggressive. He Pulls his sisters hair, tries to push her down the stairs, and wrestled with her like she’s double HIS size. They have fallen into the gentle parenting stigma that discipline is bad and they don’t do anything other than say “oh we don’t do that”. When they do “time out” they take him aside and make him play by himself with all the toys and walk off, bot setting a timer, just redirecting him, but then he goes right back to it. They say hes imposible to work with and he refuses to listen which I know isn’t true cause when I babysat him he didn’t like me but he listened. He screamed for candy and I told him ONCE that he has to finish his food, and every time he asked after I’d I’d say “You know my answer” And he ate.

So, what happened was last night we had a dinner party at the mil’s. The kids were playing and my husband heard our baby crying. When he checked on them my bil left the kids alone and their some was beating out kid with a toy. This I’d not the first time but it was the last straw. I’m tired of him not being reprimanded for his actions. So I texted her after and said that unless they start really teaching him it’s not ok to hurt others, I can’t leave them alone together.