Toddler Curious About Dad’s Penis
Advice on how fathers can teach/talk to their sons about their penises in a healthy, safe way?
First-time mama and papa here.
We have a 1.5 year old who grabs his dad’s penis occasionally when they bathe together. All I hear dad say is “that’s my penis.“ I just feel like there is a better response to little one’s curiosity and also some boundary setting with dad’s genitals that should be made. Any recommended books or advice?
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I mean. That is his penis.. at least he’s using the proper terminology. But he shouldn’t let him touch it.
You guys should sit him down and make sure he knows that he can’t touch other peoples privates and other people cannot touch his and let him know why
Maybe say “ this is dada’s, no touch”
There are lots of safe kids show on youtube about private parts. You can make the child watch them if he does screen time. And if he doesnt do screenntime, you can watch the programs learn the songs and use it to fun teach him. Thats what i did with my boy and he goes around singing the song when its shower time 🤣
Maybe don't bathe together
Maybe dad can wear shorts when bathing together
It's completely normal for babies and toddlers to be curious about this, they're realising that some people have the same and some people have different body parts to them!
And it's also lovely that your partner feels comfortable bathing in front of your children, as it will help your children to grow confident in their own bodies! I have an Icelandic MIL, where it's common to shower naked in showers at public swimming pools (same sex) and she is so confident with her body as being naked in front of others is natural and normal.
My eldest has also tried to grab my partner's penis and has pointed at his brother's when I change his nappy and we simply say "no, that dadas/babas penis, we don't touch other people's, only our own" and he understands! As he gets a bit older (and we aren't with him as much with), we will go more into depth about the who's and whys of not touching, but for now I think it's important to just set the boundaries of not touching others.
Your hubby has to stop being naked around him. This is the stage where they are curious from my own experience with two boys. When he’s older you then have the no touch convo for himself and other people.
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