Mum of 2 and feeling really low…
Just after some advice.
Happily married, so family nearby for help. Both of us working, very busy home life. Most of the time I’m on my own with the children. I don’t really have any friends as I haven’t got time for them and the friendships I’ve had in the past have fizzled out because my life just doesn’t give time for it. The past 6 weeks or so it’s just been one thing after another and I find myself crying when I wake up. I can’t think of what I need to fix how I’m feeling just feel so low. My husband is aware but tbh I don’t think he knows how to handle it. I feel quite numb to things around me, not really reacting to the children, not interested in anything at all. Keep trying to ye back into reading, exercise (we’ve got dogs that I walk everyday anyway) and nothing is bring me joy.
I feel invisible like I only exist for everyone else and if I wasn’t here it would be fine. The children wouldn’t remember me or if they did they’d be glad I was gone as I’m quite a shouty mum. Which I ABSOLUTELY hate.
I’m sensible, I’m not going to do anything stupid. I don’t see the point in going to the doctors I know what they’ll say and do. I just want to know I’m not alone in this?
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Sorry to hear you’re feeling like this. We all go through these times, you’re not alone but there are people that can help. I would suggest visiting the doctors, they will be able to offer counselling services to be able to work through these thoughts and feelings or meditation might even be needed.
I’m sure you would be terribly missed if you weren’t around
Take care x
Sorry you’re struggling
Do you get any me-time?
Would your partner be supportive if you wanted to sign up to an evening group where you might also make some friends? If you’re near Redruth I recommend women’s kickboxing at Mahers, they’re a lovely friendly group and helped me feel more empowered
Could also be worth speaking to your GP?
I definitely recommend getting some counselling. I felt this way until I had a chance to talk it through with someone on the outside and I honestly felt so much better afterwards, like a weight had been lifted and I could feel like myself and happy again. If you can't get a paid counsellor then ask your GP about free services (though there may be a bit of a wait).
Sorry your going through this. If you don’t want to go to the doctors, you can always refer yourself to talking therapy. I’ve done twice, once when I was pregnant and another time when my little one had just turned one. It really helped being talk to have a spaces to talk to someone.
https://gateway.mayden.co.uk/referral-v2/eac41fcf-14e5-4ca6-9288-2a5e519e60d2
You can always drop me a message if you fancy a chat. I also have a very busy life so I fully get the struggle of staying connected and maintaining friendships! X
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