How are mums finding dealing with the preemie babies?

Congratulations on the baby and happy to know he is doing well. I’m in the same boat as you and had my little one around the same time. I also didn’t have my bag packed and that seems like such a little thing to other people but it really made everything feel more like an emergency being so unprepared with nothing to comfort you. People who haven’t gone through it will always have a hard time understanding it. I deal with it daily with family asking why we haven’t done certain things yet and I can only explain so many times that Shes developmentally at a younger age. 🙄

I’m also barely surviving emotionally but my husband keeps reminding me that she’s one of the lucky ones who made it so early and if she can fight through it then we can too.

You got this!!! And you’re not alone. if you need anyone to talk to about it feel free to message ❤️

You expected a certain order and inevitably didn’t get that… So yes, I understand why it’s frustrating.. Honestly, that’s why some mommy’s go ahead and have maternity photos and set up baby registries sooner than later bc we truly don’t know when baby wants to arrive… All in All.. You aren’t missing out and you can still do family photos with your new edition. And if there are relatives that still want to contribute, that’s a blessing as well 🫶🏽❤️

Since your baby was born a preemie, his age will be adjusted until he’s about 2 years old! My daughter was born a preemie too and we would always go by her adjusted age first. I didn’t have the bag nor the shoots. Just enjoy your baby. Don’t feel bad with how you are doing, just survive and trust me things will get better. Take things day by day and give yourself the credit! You’re doing great mama!

I get it, my son was 13 weeks early and spent almost 4 months in Nicu and is still followed by hospital drs. I had my baby shower while he was in nicu. Never got the maternity pics either, but I saw the hospital i was at doing something for a family and asked if I could get that and they agreed so I have some family portraits of my baby, husband and I. My son will be 7 on the 17th and cant believe how fast it went. Its always going to be different with a preemie, still is for us/me and we have another kid which makes things worse mentally because the kids are so different brain wise and understanding. My preemie doesn't do well test wise like still scores over 2 years behind, but in person cant tell at all. He is in a special day class for being autistic but is starting to go to regular classes because he is doing so well. Just take it day by day, explain whatever you want to people, when they ask and they will ask for a bit still, but your baby will do things when he is ready and you will still feel

Great pride when he does. We more so babied my son till 4/5 like didnt push things on him, waited for his time frame to be ready for potty training and eating some food textures. You learn and adjust and you find your self some preemie mom friends or other people that understand and will help you feel great about how well your baby is doing. Trust me preemies have a lot more to accomplish especially in beginning. Every car i drive has a preemie sticker that says Nicu tough, preemie strong and its true we are stronger for going through Nicu. Dont let the guilt eat you alive as much as you can help it, it's hard at times but we were dealt different baby stages that our kids chose, and when your baby does something great it feels even better and my husband and I havw tried to do some things when he was younger and it always came down to the fact that Phoenix will do what he needs to do when he is ready. He has been that way since birth.