Baby Groups
Do babies become more chill as they get older?
Whenever we go to baby groups we are the ones whose baby cries, I’m talking every single group. My boy is 4 months and still cries a fair amount, but he is generally happy at home and he does cry a little less than previous weeks. Every time I go to groups I look at people with the babies of all ages and theirs seems quite chilled and a lot of the time I can’t join in conversations as I’m up and rocking my baby.
Could the groups be too much for him? One of them is just the mums around for a chat, nothing too much happening.
Today someone said to me “oh I don’t think he likes coming to this group” which made me think he cries every time and what are other mums thinking…
It’s made me not want to go now and I do rather enjoy it but feel so bad for my baby.
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Some babies are just more sensitive (mine is one) especially if he’s tired and he goes 0-100 quick time 😂.
I don’t think this should ever stop you as that could become very isolating. You would think other mams would be a bit more considerate and understanding.
Please don’t let their comments stop you, even if you go for 20 mins and leave if it becomes too much for him.
If I never went out when my LO gets upset I wouldn’t be able to even do the food shop!
Oh bless you that comment from them was awful.
I can't answer to if they get more chill if they're older because my girl is only 6 months old.
She's also cried every time we go.
There is one we go to were it's only like 2-4 other adults and maybe 2 other babies and she's not bad for that one so I think the one with 10+ other moms and children is just too much stimulation for her.
Honestly I've stopped going because of it because I couldn't even get a conversation in without her crying so I didn't see the point in going anymore.
I am incredibly isolated and hardly leave the house because I get so overwhelmed with it all. I have ppd and ppa from it all.
I agree with the above comments saying not to let it get to you and do it anyways but I say that sat at home because I know it's easier said than done.
I hope you have the strength to push past it x
We started going to groups when my LG was 9 weeks old and now she is 7 months old. We go to groups organised by the council 3 times a week : massage, yoga, and play. It was hard at the beginning because she was also crying all the time and always wanted to be held but I stuck to it because I thought it would be good for her to get out of the house and get used to people and also for me. True, sometimes we didn't get to do anything there, or even talk to someone as I was holding her but it did get better over time. I think i realised she got used to them after Christmas. During the holidays there were more classes, we stayed home and the first couple ones after restart she was again so restless, but then got better again the more we went. So i realised then it gets better.Over time I got close to 2 moms and now we go for coffee or walks outside the groups and is more relaxing for the babies. As with everything with baby there will be ups and downs but I think you should stick to it.
About the person who made that comment, they are very rude and inconsiderate, and I would just ignore them.
Definitely keep going!
The groups are as much for you as for LO.
Sometimes it’s easier feeding and rocking in the comfort of other mums and facilitators. One who may have a kind word or a cup of tea for you.
You’d be doing what you’re doing there at home anyway but the day would be so much longer
I used to think the same but last week she slept (didn’t cry) through most of the session. So I noticed th mummy who had a cry with a facilitator in the corner and the mummy who’s LO fell and banged their head. We’re all struggling through together at groups x
My LO is so similar - it seems, especially at our sensory class, that hes the only one who cries! And its so hard isnt it, I feel like i must be doing something wrong if hes not enjoying it like the other babies are..
That comment from another mum isnt very helpful, but honestly I think meant with nice intentions to try and help, even if it didn't come across that way.
I also think, im starting to be more chill and just accept that he cries at some classes, ans other babies might cry more at home!
Hey! My boy is 3 months and we’ve been going to groups since the turn of the year. He’s a crier too… sometimes he will be grinning one moment and the next screaming. And when he gets going he is really hard to settle. It is my fear every time we go to baby groups. I am also formula feeding as BF didn’t work out for us so it’s not easy to just whip out my boob in an attempt to try to settle him (which worked for the brief few weeks I did BF!) anyway… all I’m saying is you’re not alone. Other mums should be more understanding and that comment was uncalled for. You do you. Keep going.
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