UK Based. Looking for advice when divorced. Really need this help of yours

Wouldn’t the ultimate plan be to be able to divorce amicably and maintain a civil relationship for your kids’ sake and also minimal disruption to their lives?

I would imagine a lot depends on the ages of your kids - huge difference between 2 little ones who have just started primary school vs teens at secondary school.

Do you have support where you currently live? Or would you be better off living closer to family/friends elsewhere? That would determine whether you should move or not.

What about your ex - is he a good dad? An involved loving father? Would he also be willing to move to be near his kids? What about his job? Is it transferable to another location?

What about custody arrangements? Will your ex be taking the kids during the week or weekends only? You would need to figure that out.

If you stayed in the mortgaged home, I assume your ex would also be living there too. Would that not be too messy? You’d most likely have to sell and make a fresh start.