Second time moms

You are the mama and you know your baby best. Follow your gut.

We are hoping to have an out of hospital birth but our toddler is 2 1/2 and used to spending time with other family and caretakers so I wouldn’t have that same concern. It’s totally ok to do your own thing.

Oh absolutely! When my second was born, we had our first come to the hospital that afternoon and he slept there with us that night and we all went home together the next day. Planning on doing something similar with baby #3. Probably have have them come to the hospital (maybe just my oldest, 3yo) the and not sleep over. We’ll see.

Granted, I have only spend the mandatory 24hrs in the hospital for each birth so that may have made it easier.

But you know your child better than anyone! So if you think it’ll be too much I wouldn’t.

I have to double check my hospitals rules, but my plan is to have my hubby get my daughter from my dad once baby and I are settled from the birth and just have her stay with us until we go home. She’s beyond excited to be a big sister and I know being there for those first moments would me everything to her.

But that’s just my specific situation. If you don’t feel having your first visit in the hospital is productive, then don’t stress yourself out! Just have baby and your first meet at home where everyone can be as relaxed as possible and have as much time as necessary to adjust

I am in the same boat. My 2 1/2 year old has been more attached since I’ve been pregnant. He is fine with family member and others but I have to sneak away. I can’t say bye or he will just cry. So Idk how he will be after the baby is born and if he comes and then has to leave.

My baby girl will be born in three weeks. My daughter has been with her dad. I will get her back four days before I have my new baby. She will have been with her dad for a month. She will be up in the hospital as much as possible. I want her in the bed holding the baby all the stuff. She knows her sister is for her. Even today on the phone, she asked to see her sister my tummy.

I’ve been stressing on how my toddler is going to meet baby sister and a lot of people say let them meet the day you plan going home so your going home as a family! That’s what we plan on doing cause my daughter is very attached to me.

We're planning to have them meet at home. Our daughter is really attached to us and normally doesn't stay with anyone but us. Having her come to the hospital would end in her having a massive meltdown when she has to leave. But my provider also said she'll send me home hopefully the same day if I want to

I remember being almost 3 and going to the hospital when my mom had my younger sister and it was confusing and overwhelming and not a good experience for me unfortunately so I'll be waiting until we either are in the process of leaving or meeting at home. My daughter is 2 and I'm not sure she has any idea of what would be going on.

It depends how long I’m in there, if it’s only 2 days like last time I might just wait until I’m home for them to meet, we talked about getting her a little gift as well, but she’s been excited waiting on her baby sister so we will see 🩷 ( almost 3 year old )

We're not having any visitors at the hospital, the girls will meet their sister at home on the couch. Did the same with my 2nd

Just had my baby on Thursday. Our 2.5 year old came later that day with the grandparents to meet the baby and it went well. We made it clear it was HER baby sister and all our baby so she felt like it was the family's and not just mom and dad's baby. We video called her the next day as well and made sure she got a lot of attention when we got home. It went great.

Id say definitely have him come see you bc he misses you yes hes not gunna be happy leaving without you but he will enjoy the time he gets with you also maybe even just doing it the day you leave might help so you can leave together also i recommend you to not be holding the new baby when he comes in because that would probably make him feel like you left him for another baby and could make him really jealous and resent the new baby so leave baby in the basinet and tell your son how much you love and missed him then introduce the baby on his timing by saying hey look here is your new baby brother/sister do you want to hold him/her.. hope this helps but yes definitely let him come see you he misses you ‼️

I didn’t really think about him having to leave lol i am thinking once he sees his baby sister my mom will tell him they need to go get stuff ready for the baby & activate his big brother duties or get ice cream to celebrate him becoming a big brother lol