Advice please
Hello. I found i was pregnant. About 5 weeks. I already gave a 3year old that I absolutely love and adore. I'm scared to have another one because mine and my 3 year olds bond is so strong and I just don't want that to be ruined. I feel so guilty like I'm ruining her life or something? Idk. I just am crying everyday after finding out because I don't want my kid to resent me or feel less loved when the baby is here. I wanted it to be me and her awhile longer and I just feel so scared that mine and her bond won't be as close... any moms have any advice? Or what your experience was with having another baby. How your relationship with your first went? I just feel so sad.
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While I’m not in the exact same situation as you I figured I’d comment! I had a really hard time with this too. My first is 3 (will be 4 in May) and I just found out I’m pregnant with my second but we did plan this pregnancy. I am really close with her and am terrified but things changed for me over the summer and made me sure I want a second. I was thinking more about the future. My husband is an only child and I love his parents but when we visited it was just quiet and blah. I have two younger sisters and when we all got together the next weekend it was loud and messy and fun and there are uncles and aunts and hopefully cousins in the future. I sat there that night and couldn’t imagine taking that away from my daughter if we didn’t have another. I’m still scared but thinking of that helps me.
Nothing to worry about, my eldest loves his baby brother so much and it really hasn’t affected our bond. Best thing in life you can give your child is a sibling! I think we all feel that initial guilt but it the long run it’s so worth it x
I have a 3(almost 4)yr old and a 2yr old. My 3 yr old is the BEST big sister and a huge helper! It’s hard when baby is under 6 months but I did my best to give her plenty of 1 on 1 time with me and dad. Reassuring that they aren’t being replaced and still have a very special place in your family
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