feeling overwhelmed
i have a 3 month old and just feel so overwhelmed i don't know if im doing things right i just constantly feel overwhelmed especially now as she is having a hard time falling asleep gets overtired and then hard to put to sleep. i feel like im not spending enough time with her because of the cleaning and housework etc ive asked for help from my partner but i just feel like he has the choice of doing things and i dont he doesnt see things like i do like if i ask him to get stuff ready for the night feed he forgets or does something wrong and it just annoys me. I dont know what to do i just feel alone and overwhelmed.
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You are definitely not alone in these experiences and feelings! I have also been so overwhelmed with my 3 month old for the same reasons and my husband is working and commuting for 14-16 hours a day so I do literally everything during the week- he’s lucky if he even gets to kiss her goodnight. If your husband is home he should be doing his share. I think you should talk to him about how you’re feeling and decide together on a few really specific tasks to do that are the same each day that are “his tasks” so he’s less likely to forget. If he’s not doing something right tell him exactly how you need him to do it. Remember that this is a season and it will get easier in time- you are certainly not the only mama feeling this way! ❤️
Having a baby should be team work.
It is shared responsibility.
Baby is 3 months, you should be enjoying baby and not worrying about the housework. Do what you can but your partner should also be pulling their fair share too. If that means you do more baby things and he cooks and cleans, then that’s ok too.
Don’t regret cleaning the house, over spending more time with your LO.
If you want someone to talk it out with I’m happy to chat. We have found some things that are working for our baby in this tough season so if you’re looking for other things to try I’m happy to tell you what I do or just to vent to so you feel less alone in it. I have felt so alone in it too and like I’ve hit a wall several times!
Your definitely not alone if you need anyone to talk to or rant you can always give me a message, just remember your new to this and your doing a great job x
My babies doctor told me the dishes will be there tomorrow rest it’s okay to rest and spend time with your baby I let things pile up over here but I’m happy bc I’m spending time with my baby she will be 4 months on Easter she’s already got 11 out of 13 miles stones before she’s 4 months I’m playing with her not everyday some days me and her just relax don’t beat yourself up also my husband is off on the weekends he hates that he has to watch her while I basically clean all day but oh well 😂🤷🏻♀️🩷
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