Ramadan

WSalaam. Don't worry sister a lot of us mothers feel the same way, its definitely not the same as pre baby or even pre marriage times where you could stay up all night to pray and go to taraweeh regularly. It feels disheartening until you remember that all the time effort and energy you put into you child all day is also an ibadah, do your best as a mother for the sake of allah and you will be rewarded. It already sounds like you are trying your best, dont be too hard on yourself. If yiu can attend virtual Quran classes or halaqa for women do that but dont stress

Wa alaykum asalaam my sis!

There’s so much barakah in praying at home, going to the masjid isn’t a must so don’t beat yourself up about it.

Allah loves the efforts that are consistent so start small. Set yourself a small
Goal of maybe 5 mins of reading Quran after every prayer, include your baby, sit with her. Or when you’re feeding baby make dhikr every time.

Straight after baby is asleep, get up and pray a few rakats and sit on your mat and make sincere dua.

Ramadan isn’t about big gestures, it’s about forming new consistent habits and becoming better than you were before.

You are a mother! Everything you do for your child counts as ibadah! Allah sees it all so please don’t think that just being a mum isn’t gaining you any reward. With each act you do for your baby renew your intention and remind yourself you’re doing it for the sake of Allah, to please him and to take care of the beautiful child he has blessed you with.

Pick a few small tasks sis, and be consistent. ❤️

Your doing great mama the masjid isn’t obligatory for us as women for this exact reason. Don’t forget your being rewarded for looking after your little one. Just focus on the obligatory acts and see if you can get some extra rakats in for the night prayer, listen or read some Quran and maybe listen to a lecture. Increase in some sadaqa if you’re able to

Everything you do as a wife and a mother in Ramadan is ibbadah. I haven’t been able to do much with my 3 year old and 5 month old baby. Sometimes when I have energy I do some extra prayers after they go to sleep. I do dkir sometimes. Little things add up. Don’t compare your level of performance pre mama life.

Just wanted to say thank you to all the mums that gave advice. It has been really helpful and uplifting. Today I’ve felt the best I’ve felt the whole of Ramadan. Honestly thank you so much May Allah bless you all x

I took my 1yo to jummah last week at ELM and was stopped about 30 times with people telling em how cute he was and making dua! I think larger mosques are more welcoming as they probably see more babies.

You'll hopefully meet other mums there too. I was praying and my son was crawling all over someone next to me and she just played with him. Remember you're in a masjid so inshaAllah most people will be so kind to your baby

Salaam sis, I’m in the same boat as you.. I haven’t been in mosque because my baby is teething and very cranky. Don’t feel bad. There’s a lot of reward for looking after a child and barakah in praying from home too.. as long as you are praying and reciting the Quran when you can. Maybe you can even tune into some sermons online!