To have a second child or not ?

In the same boat! Was firmly team one and done for a long time until very recently. I had a lot of trauma that was unleashed following the birth of my daughter that I needed to navigate and now the storm is over I'm finding myself wondering if I am done. I'm no spring chicken either 😅 so any decisions will need to be made quick sharp lol.

I'm sorry that you've had difficulties following the birth of your son, but I guess the only advice I can offer is, see how it goes. I would suggest building up intimacy with your partner as I think he might feel a bit put out if you only want him to have another baby.

You need to talk about it with your partner.

I knew I’d always have another child. Once my first turned 1 and I saw him with other children it solidified my decision to definitely want baby number 2.
Loving another child is as they say it your heart doubling in size essentially. Also seeing my son and daughter together literally brings me to tears (happy ones) as he loves and dotes on her so much.

I gotcha. I wasn't sure if you had discussed it with him or not. I'd say go for it if you think you can handle it physically and mentally. Also, I have 2 daughters so trust me when I say I promise you will love your 2nd child just as much as your 1st.

Iv just had my second. I think I just really wanted the experience again of pregnancy and the baby stage because first time round it was amazing, best days of my life. I thought I was one and done for a while but just could not stop thinking about having another, and I love the idea of my first having a sibling :) I have a sister and we are close so hoping it will be the same for my boys in the future. I love being a mum too, but definitely done now at 2 x

I’d love a 2nd baby but my partner is very on the fence about the idea, he has two boys from a previous relationship and as much as I love my stepsons as my own I would love another baby

My second child was unexpected, and a high risk pregnancy, so it was very scary but she’s my miracle baby and I can’t imagine life without her now! I don’t think there’s any right time, there may be a “better” time but all in all watching your oldest be a big sibling is such a wonderful experience. Don’t get me wrong it’s not easy and I feel like I never really have a break now but watching them play and build a relationship is all worth it! I love both my girls equally and I’m definitely pulled in a lot of directions but I wouldn’t want to be doing anything else!!

I joined a great group on FB called one and done and on the fence. One woman said a pro and con really helped her narrow down her thoughts. So we tried this and realised all our cons were short term like newborn sleep, nursery costs etc. I’m now 33w pregnant ❤️