Which do you agree more with?
For your child's young development, do you? I'm talking about from birth to age 3-4/5
Please comment how you feel on parenting cause my husband and mil drive me INSANE with their parenting styles. I have a 2.5 year old daughter
They both just over-stimulate and are always holding, and babying my daughter
I feel like my say as her mom has never been considered which I think is unfair
I believe in creating more independence for your children for healthy development
I am not saying do not comfort or not to love your children but I feel there are boundaries when it comes to parenting, especially when other family is in the mix
Am I wrong for feeling this?
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Some of our family members are not understanding of our LO's schedule/routine. He sleeps independently and through the night, to hear "Just let him play through this nap" I'm like umm no he needs a nap thank you. The same people I would never let watch my child because they would not do a single thing I asked them to do while watching him.
I would say both, emotional development and attachment are still being formed so lots of comfort and creating an emotionally safe bond is important however I also advocate for independence. I think others need to respect a parents choices (they can give suggestions) but ultimately you know what your child need. I choose to responsivly parent, adapting my own styles to meet my childs needs. My son is encouraged to take time to independent play and choose his favourite activities without interference from us but there is a set time so we can move on to something else that needs doing. He has morning and bedtime jobs he needs to do that we try to move through in a checklist style but that maintains consistency and routine for him. If we are cleaning our house, he is encouraged to help out (my mil doesn't like this one) but I'm showing him he's part of where he lives. Others might disagree but I offer comfort if he's angry or emotional, and still cuddle him to sleep at night but I feel that's what he needs.
When newborn or infant I would comfort and hold as much as possible but I guess from when they start crawling, walking I would start to encourage more independence... I would support them to explore and be adventurous but in a safe way!
I wouldn't say one is better or worse, just depends on your parenting style and babies mood
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