Roles between a sthm and a working partner?

It’s not honey my husband and I sleep together with are son he works and I stay at home today my son woke up right around the time he’s supposed to go to work so he took him while I get to sleep in and then I woke up he kissed me and then left every day after work he comes home and grabs his son I don’t have to ask him and when I do ask him he grabs him whether he is playing the game or not he knows my job of taking care of are son is a job as well honey if your husband knows how much babysitting cost and house cleaning and a chef I don’t think he could pay for it each month it’s way to much my husband would never tell me the bullshit your husband just told you I am so sorry and your right that is not ok you need to talk to him again just because he works and you’re gonna stay at home. Mama does not mean that he can just come home and do nothing and expect you to do everything mind you my husband does hard labor which is flooring my husband could come home tired and still grab his son

You are right—it is not how a team should work. If I was in your situation and he would not hear me out, I would look into getting a job to possibly leave if things don’t get better

I'm sorry, I completely feel you. I'm growing such a hatred towards my son's dad. I've gotten to the point where I dont expect anything from him, I give him so much understanding, and he acts like I just sit around and have it easy. We both co sleep with our son, and lately, I've just been making him get up during the night to help. I am going to try to start seeing a therapist because I'm having so much rage.

I take care of him, his 17 y/o neice, and my son with no help, appreciation, or anything. I'm to the point I would rather him be out doing Uber or whatever because I'm more pissed when he's home watching me on go non-stop, and he just sits on his game or phone smh

I also work once a week and make $100, and that's all I get. I can hardly ask for anything without feeling like it's an issue. I cry way too much, but eventually, I won't care anymore.

Look up the nanny, private chef, house manager, and family assistant rates in your area. Add them together, (remember to factor in night rates and overtime as well) and start billing him. Then remind him that you are saving the household more money than he is bringing in so really if the only factor in his eyes is money, this is a great way to show him he needs to contribute more.

that’s not teamwork. you’re doing EVERYTHING so he can focus on ONE thing. remember that. also I would suggest trying after your kiddo falls asleep you roll out of bed and go back to yours (floor bed) I realized way too late that the reason my kid was waking so many times at night was actually because we were on the same bed. once she was able to sleep undisturbed by any movement or whatever by me she started sleeping through the night about 60% of the time. I roll away and get me time or couple time and if she does wake in the middle of the night then i’ll go in and sleep the rest of the night with my kid. took it from 2-3 night wakings to none or one and I desperately needed that quiet time to myself or the couple time for our relationship to get romance back. the way I explained it to my man was being a parent is a 24/7 job you don’t get to clock out of and so I understand he works all day but i’m also working all day and it doesn’t end at 5pm. he’s also a parent 24/7 clocked in

The problem is you can't force people to see insight, but you can control what you put up with and whether or not you choose to stay in this. It'll take some courage but get a clear picture first of what he's willing to do and not do, how he feels, what your expected to do and if you can't communicate these things calmly unfortunately that's your answer. From what you feel said his views are old fashioned and unhealthy. I wish you the best. My inbox is open if you need someone to talk to 💕