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Moms in their 30’s

The hardest part about having no village

We hear moms talk all the time about not having a village and how parenting is just awful without having support. But I think the worse part about not having a village is watching my kid have no friends. I remember growing up and having cousins to play with, and my parents friends kids. There were always people around. But my kid, he has no one. I had kids late in life so the friends I had when I was pregnant all had kids much older than mine. My brothers kids are much older than mine. Now, those same friends dont talk to me anymore. Even if they did, their older kids probably wouldn't want to play with mine. Its hard watching my child be so desperate for friends that he latches onto whatever kid at the park he can find. He instantly calls them his friend, even if they are being mean to him. His "friends" are his stuffed animals. Thats who he has to play with. I've tried making mom friends with moms who have kids the same age, and it never works out. I've talked to moms at the park, even exchanged numbers and nothing. I dont really care that i have no friends. But my heart hurts for my son. We even had another baby just so he would have one constant kid to play with. But it took us longer than we wanted to get pregnant, and his brother is still a baby so hes not much fun yet. He's in school now, so I thought maybe he would make friends there, but when I try to talk to moms of his classmates to maybe set up playdates, I dont get anywhere there either. I dont know what I wanted to come from this post, just sharing my thoughts I guess. Maybe other moms can relate.