Please no judgement
Before I get into this please no negativity. I’m already struggling mentally with this. So my daughter is about to turn 2 and I love her. Me and my husband both wanted 1 boy and 1 girl. For us especially me that was the perfect family. That’s what I wanted with everything I am. We had been trying for a little boy. January I found out I was pregnant and I was over the moon. I just found out the gender and it’s another girl. I want to still be excited but I’m not. I’ve actually been in the worst depression I’ve ever had. Now I don’t care about the pregnancy and I know how bad that sounds I’m just really struggling with this. Has anyone else been threw this and how did you get threw it
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How far along are you? You can cancel it an try again or do ivf next time.
Ooff.. my BF and I went through the same thing. I feel this on so many levels. I never did a gender reveal because we both knew if the outcome was boys that it would just not be very pleasant expressions on our faces.
My first child was a boy which honestly was ideal cause I wanted to have a boy and then a girl when I got pregnant the second time I was so confident that it was going to be a girl I was so excited and then it came back and I was having another boy 🙄🙄 ugh… I was sad and it sucked.
The only thing I can say is my boys are just a little over a year and a month apart and they are already each other’s best friends. . They are going to get to experience middle school together. They are going to get to experience high school together. They are going to get to experience all of their life events at the same time and they aren’t going to have to look for support or try and get somebody else to understand what the other one is going through because they will go through it together
I haven’t been through this but I just wanted to reach out and say I don’t judge you. You’ll get through it.
I wanted a girl so bad! I only have boys. It's so hard when reality doesn't match the way I pictured it in my head. I was so disappointed after finding out each time. I tried to focus on the things I loved the first time around like coming up with names and a cute theme for the nursery. I also focused on the financial benefits of having kids the same gender and not having to get a bunch of new stuff or clothes. I hope this helps! You'll find what works for you.
I haven't shared this experience. I am currently in a pregnancy that I didn't want, and I can relate on that level. As much as we look down on the videos of dads-to-be having tantrums over the results of a gender reveal, gender disappointment is real and valid for either parent. Do you have access to a therapist or counselor to discuss these feelings?
I'm sure both of us will grow to love our little ones when they do arrive. Give yourself some grace and try to find resources to help you process gender disappointment. Love and support to you.
Gender disappointment is a real thing, for some reason we think a complete family must have each of the gender but that’s not true. I’m currently pregnant, I have 2 girls already I was hoping this 3rd one will be a boy 😂😂 guess what it’s also a girl. And this 3rd is supposed to be our last. I was quite disappointed for awhile but my husband was quite encouraging during the down time. I have gotten over it and I’m excited about having my house filled with girls 😁😁. If you really want a boy maybe you can do IVF with the 3rd or you adopt. Give yourself grace you will come to terms with your little girl
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