Dad is in denial about child having autism

My husband was in denial at first but I would gently bring it up and send him articles and he came to realize that being in denial was harmful and now he’s super on board and involved in her therapy and such!

They say its harder for the dad to come around to it but its not a excuse it took my boyfriend a while and almost a year of yes he has it then he has something but maybe not austism just be kind to yourselves

I know my partner was the same and now even to this moment he doesnt always agree to the soft touch i take my son to all appointments doctors included i even had to hold my son down before a was two so a doctor could put a camera throught his nose and found he needed surgery if you ever need to talk im here

How old is your son? Sometimes it’s very hard to see it unless you see them amongst their peers and then it becomes obvious! It’s also a bit of a grieving process of the life you imagined although over time you realise not much has changed it’s just a little bit different x

I was the one in denial and refused to get my first looked at for a few months but my partner kept asking and giving me different concerns about our daughter so I let her get started on the pathway despite me thinking everything was ok and normal, turned out I also have learning difficulties and chromosome issues 😂 maybe your partners a bit special too?

Denial DOES not go away,it's a mind set you maybe cld call it
( don't know) when a child presents with challenges ( whatever they are) you man up or you run away
It's easy to say - yeah sure whatever fk off-
It's another to go omg what now
If how old is your child .... he is either still in shock given the age of your child
Or just doesn't wanna know
My son has adhd
And it is just I can't cope at times because it's just so much the yelling, the noises that are unbearable to hear ( nails scratching on a chalkbored) the endless talking or the body movement that doesn't stop
He was spitting licking and kissing first year of school in 2024 ,now grade 2 it's gotten better but any new teacher not regular ( relief ) have no fkn idea
You may or may not wind up a single mum
Just take it as it comes
You struggle more when your single though

My (now) ex-husband was in denial for years. It was a huge point of contention. But now that our son is six, there's no denying it. He's just not involved at all whatsoever which I prefer because he had a horrible temper anyway.

I'm sure every situation is different. It just depends on what the father can emotionally handle I guess. It doesn't negate how lonely it can feel when you feel like you're the only one processing the diagnosis because it can get heavy.

My husband denied it for a while but then he went on the play dates and actually listened. 🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️