Husband is happy with only one kid, not me

We had another conversation about it tonight. We had our beautiful daughter 10 months ago, he is very happy to have her and totally in love. But he has personal/financial goals and is happy the way things are. He is looking forward for her to be a bit older and to be able to share more with her.

Me on the other hand am very sad about not having a second baby. I always viewed my life with two kids and am an only child and it seems I would have loved to have a sibling. I know kids don't always get along but me and my husband are both only childs... And I feel it would be great for her to have a sister or brother to share life with.

He says he is 90% sure he only wants one and I keep getting my hopes up on basically nothing... Did anyone go through something similar ? What happened ? And are you happy with your decision to have one more or stop at one ?

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I 100% get it. My husband only you want one he has an older daughter is 17 but we have a 6-month-old together and she is my firstborn. And I'm already wanting another one. And he says no

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Maybe he is tired from 1 child ? Babies can be exhausting and this is coming from an educator . Maybe in a couple of years he will change his mind šŸ¤·šŸ¾ā€ā™€ļø

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Similar situation
Took us 7 years to agree on having another , 2 years of trying and we’re now excepting our second

We have enjoyed our daughter as a only child, the time and memories she is now at an age where she’s independent enough to enjoy the baby stages of her new sibling with us like we did her plus she’s excited to teach him the things that’s she already learned and we got a chance to teach her


So don’t lose hope he may come around take time to enjoy your new blessing and revisit the conversation with him in another year or two if that’s possible for you
Because raising two under two is a total different ball game

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It’s still very early she’s only 10m. Give it a year or 2 and maybe he’ll change his mind. Sometimes w time, and changed circumstances, people change their mind. They might not be as close as you’d hoped, but maybe when she’s 2-3 he’ll change his mind like my hubby did

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