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My birthday is on Friday March 20. I’ll be 35 years young.My man wants to wait to celebrate it until April 1st because he’ll be paid. I have no one else except my man and my kids. I haven’t spoken to anyone from my family since 2018. This year hit me and I’m crying just writing this. I am so lonely and sad. I just need to be lifted up. Am I being unreasonable or selfish?

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Happy early birthday mama. I turned 35 on Sunday too. This hit me hard as well after my 10year marriage ended. Didn’t want to celebrate but my family convinced me too and I’m happy I did.
Honestly if it’s just you and the kids then do it.

Can you try to get babysitting or look on a website for local babysitter? To look after the kids for April 1? Then you and your man can have a nice date night to celebrate your bday, do whatever it is your heart desires or wanna do w him, watch a movie go casino get some dinner/drinks or go dancing or whatever you want. Make the most of it and make it a memorable night. If you have no one I’d be inclined to pay for a babysitter and get someone to do the bedtime routine and watch over them while they’re asleep and go for a couple hrs at night since your kids are 8 and 3, once they’re asleep you have the whole night. I’d go dancing if it were me, or dinner at a pub w live loud music w my man or like a bar that serves food and is part club. Happy upcoming birthday!

If you’re game then you can do an open invite for your bday get a couple of local ladies together and celebrate your bday, I did that a couple years ago here on peanut for a Mothers Day bash, 8 mums ended up coming all strangers at first lol I booked a karaoke room.

To be fair birthdays really shouldnt matter anymore we are all older and i dont see a reson to be upset how circumstances get in the way of things. But i understand where youre coming from i just dont find birthdays a real big thing anymore🤷‍♀️im just happy i get to hang out with my man at this rate and my kiddo, wouldnt want it any other way. The small things are the best things imo.

Happy early birthday! My birthday is also Friday! I know what you mean! You’re not being unreasonable! Do something small for yourself on that day. I would❤️

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Mother

The house is quiet.
Finally, a moment to myself.
I sit on the couch, expressing milk for his next feed.
Time circles my mind.
Do I have enough time to write this?
Should I sleep instead?
It’s getting late.
I should be grateful.
I should be present.
I should… I should.
The guilt.
The intrusive thoughts.
The disconnection from self.
The robotic washing of bottles, clothes, and dishes.
Then the question returns.
Do I have enough time for me?
What me?
Who am I?
Where am I?
I miss her.
I miss me.
Who have I become?
I have become a mother.
I am everything to this little human who will one day call me mum.
His life depends on me with every waking moment.
I give.
And I give.
Then he smiles.
And suddenly I see him
the little human I have nourished with tired eyes,
with time,
with love stretched beyond capacity.
Sometimes I leave to rest.
To breathe.
But even then my mind returns home.
I should be there.
I should be caring for my baby.
Is this normal?
Am I normal?
I feel myself unbecoming the woman I once knew so well.
They say this time is sacred.
And it is.
But it goes fast.
Maybe because we are not fully here in these early days.
We are surviving.
Living on autopilot.
Days blur together.
Until suddenly he shows me something new —
a smile,
a look,
a tiny trick he has learned.
And that moment is priceless.
His beautiful smile.
His big, beautiful eyes.
He is beginning his life
as I share mine
to keep him thriving.
A sacred sacrifice.
A whirlwind.
A shift in reality.
Who am I?
I am mother.

Does anyone have a child that’s a bit “different” when it comes to in law’s family? 😅😂

My sister in law is having a conversation with my 4year old and ask what their favorite tv show is and my 4/yo response “stranger things” and absolutely no comment when she said that 😂
She ask what is their favorite food and my 4yo says “spam” their response is “huh? What? “
Then asks what their favorite candy is and my 4y/o responds “no I don’t eat that. It’s not good for you” no response again 😂
I feel like there’s an expectation they have towards my kids
If they ask what their favorite tv show is they’ll expect a “Mickey mouse Minnie Mouse” that type of stuff for ex
Please tell me I’m not the only one and how do yall feel about it?😅😂

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How would you serve it to a 6 month old please? Is it boiled water, formula or mix with cows milk?? I don’t trust google and can’t for the life of me remember what I did for my daughter lol

Husband is happy with only one kid, not me

We had another conversation about it tonight. We had our beautiful daughter 10 months ago, he is very happy to have her and totally in love. But he has personal/financial goals and is happy the way things are. He is looking forward for her to be a bit older and to be able to share more with her.

Me on the other hand am very sad about not having a second baby. I always viewed my life with two kids and am an only child and it seems I would have loved to have a sibling. I know kids don't always get along but me and my husband are both only childs... And I feel it would be great for her to have a sister or brother to share life with.

He says he is 90% sure he only wants one and I keep getting my hopes up on basically nothing... Did anyone go through something similar ? What happened ? And are you happy with your decision to have one more or stop at one ?

Separating

So my husband has decided he’s done and doesn’t want us to stay together any more. I thought he was depressed and would get over it eventually but instead he’s decided our marriage is finished. We’re in an awkward position where neither of us can afford the house on our own and neither of us can afford to move out and rent, so logistically we’ll be staying in the house, sleeping in the same bed, raising the kids together whilst not being together? What am I supposed to do? I’ve never felt so useless and rejected. What a waste of 13 years of my life. I thought we’d be together forever. Just needed to vent

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