Sex life postpartum

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Today I am five weeks postpartum. My husband has been counting down the days until I hit the six week mark so we can start our sex life again. Has anyone else been scared to get down and dirty again? Especially after a vaginal delivery. I’m worried that it’s going to hurt or reopen any wounds. And to be honest, I’ve never been a girl with high drive and isn’t something that I am overly excited about.

I have a six week checkup booked at the GP as per my midwife’s suggestion, in which I will organise birth control.

Has anyone else been in the same boat as me? Or am I being selfish by not wanting to have sex anytime soon?

Any advice would be appreciated xx

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After 2nd child we went VERY long without sex, talking months n months n months. Most American women on peanut will tell you that I have a hormone problem and can get medical intervention for that lack of labido 😅
But actually I just had to wait for my monthly cycle to start again before I was even remotely romantically attracted to hubby again. It took ages for my cycle to start again as I was breastfeeding and so i was basically a room mate to my husband for that long. And that was fine for me, but we talked about it together n came up with a plan that worked for us together. So if ur worried or dont feel like sex, thats totally your normal and u can find other ways to be intimate. There are loads of pods and podcasts about how intimacy is beyond just sex, but in my small knowledge field, fathers take a lot longer to realise that sex isn’t the only way to connect with the mother of their child

After second I think I was 10 weeks. I had stitches so it was just attempts. As soon as it hurt he was like nope we’ll stop. Which definitely helped me with getting back into the swing of it

i also honestly don’t have a v high libido - sex isn’t really something i get super excited about lol.

i had a c-section so i was even more terrified but my partner was also counting down the day.

it’s not selfish on your part - pregnancy, birth and postpartum is all
hormone shifts and massive body changes. speak to him and let him know, he should’ve understanding to the fact that you are worried on top of the general lack of drive + it doesn’t have to be full on sex if that’s what is really stressing you out!!

We done it at around 5 weeks. I really missed the intimacy as my husband wasn’t keen on pregnancy sex in the last 2.5 months and I had PGP so wasn’t keen on it either. So had been a long time for us. I was the same, very scared as I had a second degree tear. But also I’m EBF so they say you can be drier down there and have a lower sex drive. We done it and it was okay, it wasn’t sore but it was a little uncomfortable where I’d been stitched. And I was quite dry despite enjoying it. We haven’t done it since and tbh, I’m not that bothered. My sex drive is low but only 9 weeks PP and common when breastfeeding. I’d say just use lube and take it slow. I was so nervous that it was as if I was having sex for the very first time 🤣

Honestly yes I was terrified and I had a c section so really nothing to hurt down there. I waited 9 weeks or more tbh. My sex drive wasn’t the greatest either I have the implant. But even now my son is 4 months and I’m just getting into the swing of things again. Your totally normal have a chat with him he should understand xx

I am 4 months pp and we've still not done it (just some light petting & bits for him). 1. I had a mental block die to episiotomy. Even after it healed the scarring was tender. 2. Baby had prolonged jaundice so first 5 weeks was back and forth to hospital. 3. I also have a low libido so on top of new motherhood it's hard to be in the mood. 4. Baby is in the room, we spend a good amount of time pacing to get him down for the night, I'm then the one getting up through the night to BF. I want sleep not sex. Your priorities shift once your a mum. It's great if your ready, and both are on the same page. But you should never feel pressured. You need to be able to speak openly about your worries with your partner. And he should respect them. Find ways to include other intimacy first and build on it xx

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