How much would be considered too much?

We’ve been screen free till my son turned 3 - and we watched the odd few low stimulating episodes, guess how much I love you, Kipper, little bear and so forth … but now he is getting interested in movies also, I’m struggling with the house now that he’s becoming more older he wants me to play with him a lot more then he did before 3 and he is active, to add I have a health condition with causes me to feel fatigue and dizziness a lot 😭

How much tv is considered too much? Im feeling a lot of mum guilt !! Even though he’s only having 40 minutes a day (not every day at times) …

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My daughter watches for a hour before bed…and 30 minutes for when I need to do chores. Don’t have guilt about it. Do what you need to do

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We have nursery rhymes on pretty much all day which my daughter doesn’t really watch. And she’ll have about 20 minutes of Moana as that how long it takes her to fall asleep for a nap and maybe an hour in the morning before we get ready for nursery or grandmas as our newborn is still sleeping and I can’t leave him on his own upstairs x

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Hey, I research this area as part of a university research project. Honestly, you aren’t going to be harming them by letting them watch 40 minutes of tv. It sounds like you have put enormous effort into what low stimulating shows he could watch, too. In an ideal world, maybe TV wouldn’t exist. But we live in a world full of chores needing completing, where chronic health issues exist, and not many people have the amount of support that they should!

It sounds like you are already doing an incredible job and I’d say you don’t need to be too hard on yourself. The scary studies you read about really aren’t talking about parents like you ❤️

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However much you want and what works best for you each day, if it gives u a break it gives u a break let it be xx

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My son is allowed one movie a day (unless it's a sick day). I also have a sun up tv off rule.

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