Nursery

Hey, My 11month old has been going to nursery since end of January, she does Monday to Friday 9-3. She’s been ill every single week and has completed 3 rounds of antibiotics! She never ends up completing a full week and meaning im off work constantly! Me and my partner also end up catching a bug every week and it’s starting to put a big toll on family life as we are all completely burnt out! She loves to go nursery but I’m seriously thinking of pulling her out as it’s causing so much stress. Is anyone else in the same boat? I’m desperate for advice on what to do for the best. TIA X

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My little one has had constant colds and coughs since nursery and passing them on to us. She been going since Jan too. Iv been told it gets better xx

My little one is about to start her from next month but this is not good if they are ill that much

My son started in January and we've had hand foot & mouth, a cough and cold, and now an upper respiratory infection with viral conjunctivitis. Unfortunately it's almost part of the process. Everyone I've spoken to that has young kids has said they went through a phase of constant illness, a lot of my mum friends are in the same boat. It's so tough, I hear you! But sadly I'm not sure there's much you can do to prevent it. If you can afford to and want to pull her out, I guess that would be the only solution x

Coming from someone who works in a nursery it will eventually get better! It’s rough. You’ll find as the weather warms up ect it does improve. You’ve just got to remember that they need to build their immune systems up - no matter when they start nursery whether it’s now or when they’re 2/3 they’ll still be poorly a lot! It’s such hard transition period of being ill. My girl did two settling in sessions and was left with bronchiolitis. It’s so rough for them. I’m due baby number 2 in October and will seriously be considering pulling my girl out then because of the constant illnesses x

I have a 3yo and a 11mo. The 3yo started nursery at 2 and we have been sick with something ever since. Mostly coughs and colds, but also HFM, a mysterious rash, covid, norovirus a million times, and other things. Our son started the beginning of Feb and I thought he would have had better protection because he got everything his sister had. So far he has had RSV, tonsillitis, conjunctivitis and HFM. He has missed 2 out of the last 5 weeks and he only goes for half a day until the availability opens up.

I've heard from friends that it is the same whether with a childminder, a nanny, or nursery because the kids end up mixing with other kids anyway, but also that if they havent caught everything by the start of school it happens when they are 5 because again they are mixing with other kids constantly. As a result I'm keeping both mine in because they love it, but also to hopefully get it over with now rather than when they are school age. X

in our community

Does anyone have a child that’s a bit “different” when it comes to in law’s family? 😅😂

My sister in law is having a conversation with my 4year old and ask what their favorite tv show is and my 4/yo response “stranger things” and absolutely no comment when she said that 😂
She ask what is their favorite food and my 4yo says “spam” their response is “huh? What? “
Then asks what their favorite candy is and my 4y/o responds “no I don’t eat that. It’s not good for you” no response again 😂
I feel like there’s an expectation they have towards my kids
If they ask what their favorite tv show is they’ll expect a “Mickey mouse Minnie Mouse” that type of stuff for ex
Please tell me I’m not the only one and how do yall feel about it?😅😂

Weetabix

How would you serve it to a 6 month old please? Is it boiled water, formula or mix with cows milk?? I don’t trust google and can’t for the life of me remember what I did for my daughter lol

Separating

So my husband has decided he’s done and doesn’t want us to stay together any more. I thought he was depressed and would get over it eventually but instead he’s decided our marriage is finished. We’re in an awkward position where neither of us can afford the house on our own and neither of us can afford to move out and rent, so logistically we’ll be staying in the house, sleeping in the same bed, raising the kids together whilst not being together? What am I supposed to do? I’ve never felt so useless and rejected. What a waste of 13 years of my life. I thought we’d be together forever. Just needed to vent

How much would be considered too much?

We’ve been screen free till my son turned 3 - and we watched the odd few low stimulating episodes, guess how much I love you, Kipper, little bear and so forth … but now he is getting interested in movies also, I’m struggling with the house now that he’s becoming more older he wants me to play with him a lot more then he did before 3 and he is active, to add I have a health condition with causes me to feel fatigue and dizziness a lot 😭

How much tv is considered too much? Im feeling a lot of mum guilt !! Even though he’s only having 40 minutes a day (not every day at times) …

Nursery funding

I’ve given and submitted the code for the 30hrs funded hours to my sons nursery and we are due to start April 1st. Basically I put his start date as the first day he is eligible for it.
I have just received my invoice and they are charging me for the full 50hours a week with no funded hours on there.
I have emailed them to clarify but just wondering about other people’s experiences. Am I right in expecting the funded hours to be applied from my first invoice, or is it possible that because the invoice has to be paid BY April 1st (before the funding kicks in) that I have to pay the full cost despite the hours I’m paying for being after April 1st.

Stressing out over it a little, and how I’m going to afford paying that amount before I’ve even returned to work as I was expecting my bill to be nearly half that 😬

SCREEN TIME; Would you describe your parenting…

I do believe screen time can be both beneficial and harmful. We love family movie days/nights, we love Pixar films and wanted to share that with our little ones but we don’t do games on devices/youtube/short reel like videos and some kids series I can clearly see overstimulate them so we don’t watch.

I would describe us as aware of the danger of screens but I wouldn’t say we are strict with ZERO screen time, at all, we have the TV on in the background for a lot of the day, not kids tv all day and sometimes just music channels. Screens are going to be here forever and I do believe in teaching the balance. We are a camping loving family so when my kids have been outdoors playing, discovering and learning about the world all day I really don’t see how a bit of Toy Story in the tent is going to erase all that for a young one.

I do think smartphones and iPads see unnecessary for childhood, but I’m also not opposed to a movie on one during one of our many 5/6 hour drives. Like anything in life, is it not about balance? As parents we should research and learn of course, which is why there are things we have decided our children aren’t allowed but I do personally think completely screen free parenting takes it a step too far.

I see parents not allow their children to look at a screen say in FaceTime to a family member, I regularly show my children photos of my phone and we look at them together, we also look through physical photo albums🤷‍♀️ The world has both now.