I m so sick of life,I hate everything.

I hate where I live,I hate where I work,o hate myself because I can't move forward...today I was sitting in a staffroom,dinner ladies were talking about going on a cruise and I m thinking how??? I work longer hours and can't afford to go to Wales! I live in two bed council flat and I can't use garden because there idiots smoking weed,where I work,I m lowest of the lowest,whatever I try,no one listens,I cant move forward after DV and I'm terrified because I m on my own with my daughter,and I always have to say no to her because food is more important,I feel like I m letting her down,I can't sleep at night because I hate my life so much!

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Comparison is the thief of joy. You have no idea of others circumstances. Maybe those other ladies’ husbands have good jobs and therefore money/cruises/holidays are not an issue. They could be good savers and using that. Maybe someone close to them died and left them an inheritance. My point is, your jealousy is wasted thinking about it.

If you hate your life so much - change it. Don’t like your job? Look for another one. Or go back to college/uni to up your qualifications. Don’t like where you live? Move.

If you feel stuck after DV, get help. There are so many facilities and therapy available for women, you have to be proactive and start doing more for yourself.

Obviously none of this will change your life overnight, but making a start in getting the ball rolling, the momentum will gather and think about where you’ll be this time next year if you just take that first step outside of your comfort zone…

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I’ve started selling all clothes on Vinted when the kids grow out of them, doesn’t make a huge amount of money but £5 is enough to buy a new toy in a charity shop. Life does get better- it’s hard to see when but it does, you have to hang in there

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Go to another GP, your symptoms sound like depression and need to be treated, it could also be an underlying condition such as a thyroid problem which can cause depression and quickly!
You have a child to think of, you need to be healthy for her!

Are you claiming all the benefits you are entitled to? Can you look for a job with less hours and see if benefits can make up the difference?

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Your situation does sound hard.
I don't have any advice, but you can text me if you need someone to listen to you.

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You are entitled to time off work for doctors appointments, make the appointment.
Your daughter is important but so are you, by the sounds of it all you have is each other, remember that and take care of yourself!! You need to be well in both body and mind

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Focus on one aspect of your life that you would like to change first. When everything is going wrong life can feel overwhelming. You could get free career advice. There are quizzes which will tell you what jobs might suit you. There are free courses you could do with the job centre or reed. Not everyone suits open university. There are adult apprenticeships which you could do if you find something you like.

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So me and my partner (11yrs) had an argument last night to the point he sat down on his phone and done nothing for our kids all night. This morning he then stayed in bed while I sorted the kids out for school and took them to school. I didn’t bother going back home because I’m fed up that he doesn’t pull his weight. Anyway, I went to a family members house this morning and haven’t engaged in conversation and then I get these messages from him.

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How much would be considered too much?

We’ve been screen free till my son turned 3 - and we watched the odd few low stimulating episodes, guess how much I love you, Kipper, little bear and so forth … but now he is getting interested in movies also, I’m struggling with the house now that he’s becoming more older he wants me to play with him a lot more then he did before 3 and he is active, to add I have a health condition with causes me to feel fatigue and dizziness a lot 😭

How much tv is considered too much? Im feeling a lot of mum guilt !! Even though he’s only having 40 minutes a day (not every day at times) …

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SCREEN TIME; Would you describe your parenting…

I do believe screen time can be both beneficial and harmful. We love family movie days/nights, we love Pixar films and wanted to share that with our little ones but we don’t do games on devices/youtube/short reel like videos and some kids series I can clearly see overstimulate them so we don’t watch.

I would describe us as aware of the danger of screens but I wouldn’t say we are strict with ZERO screen time, at all, we have the TV on in the background for a lot of the day, not kids tv all day and sometimes just music channels. Screens are going to be here forever and I do believe in teaching the balance. We are a camping loving family so when my kids have been outdoors playing, discovering and learning about the world all day I really don’t see how a bit of Toy Story in the tent is going to erase all that for a young one.

I do think smartphones and iPads see unnecessary for childhood, but I’m also not opposed to a movie on one during one of our many 5/6 hour drives. Like anything in life, is it not about balance? As parents we should research and learn of course, which is why there are things we have decided our children aren’t allowed but I do personally think completely screen free parenting takes it a step too far.

I see parents not allow their children to look at a screen say in FaceTime to a family member, I regularly show my children photos of my phone and we look at them together, we also look through physical photo albums🤷‍♀️ The world has both now.

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So heartbroken I found out my partner is cheating

She posted a bunch of pictures of them together, him in bed kissing her, matching outfits, them at Christmas events etc, hell she has more picture with him than I have of him with the kids in the last year.

I can’t even make sense of it all. We were together 14 years and have kids under 5 including a baby.

I feel like the worst part is the silence. I messaged him a bunch of the photos like wtf how could you do this? How could you be with someone else over a year? He responded with a typo saying “it hasn’t been a year it’s actually been a for a few months”. I don’t know if he meant over a few months or only a few months and it’s driving me insane not to know. He hasn’t opened my messages since Sunday morning. Like umm I’m home alone with babies and my whole world is crashing and you can’t even check your phone? What if there was an emergency? No apology no nothing

It’s a woman I know but hadn’t seen in a few years but our last convo she knew I was pregnant. I messaged her asking how long they been together and how could she date him and flaunt it knowing we had a family and sent pics of our family but she blocked me and changed her page to private. They still follow each other so I don’t think they are broken up but the last post of them was December.


I just can’t believe this. We actually have been doing great in our relationship in the last 3 months things were better than ever. I had zero idea any of this was going on


I hate not knowing if/when he’s coming home? Is he at least coming up with a fake apology or something or will he just be angry and act like he’s done nothing wrong. I can’t believe that was his only response and the typo is driving me mad lol

I haven’t slept or even ate since I found out. I’m so heartbroken we just had celebrated his birthday Saturday with the kids and had such an amazing day out, it was so beautiful our toddler was running around saying daddy daddy daddy which she just learned to say and now I’m just like wtfffffff

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Hosting Family

Okay I have an observation regarding bff my boomer parents and In-laws. My mother and my MIL always host family gatherings at their houses. Every occasion my MIL will often complain about all the work going into hosting. My husband and I have volunteered to have family come to our home (Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Mother’s Day Father’s Day etc) but whenever we do we get no thank you but you can host here? This makes no damn sense lol. I get we live far away but we do everything there. Every occasion including birthdays. How can I prepare to host at your house. This is silly. 🤪

I love my in-laws and my parents but please boomers let us be grownups?

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Nursery food

Hello, I've suspected for a while that my sons nursery doesnt follow the government guidelines. They have biscuits, cakes etc. I did email them snd they said they do so i left it at that.
Last week they did a mothers afternoon tea and provided cakes, sandwiches for the kids and mothers. They also had haribo marshmallows on offer! I was suprised to see this as they are full or sugar and also a choking hazard! Would you say anything? Ive emailed a few times and I'm worried they are going to hate me but I just found it odd. Yes they could have been for the mums but why would you have marshmallows there. What would you do? X

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