I hate where I live,I hate where I work,o hate myself because I can't move forward...today I was sitting in a staffroom,dinner ladies were talking about going on a cruise and I m thinking how??? I work longer hours and can't afford to go to Wales! I live in two bed council flat and I can't use garden because there idiots smoking weed,where I work,I m lowest of the lowest,whatever I try,no one listens,I cant move forward after DV and I'm terrified because I m on my own with my daughter,and I always have to say no to her because food is more important,I feel like I m letting her down,I can't sleep at night because I hate my life so much!
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Comparison is the thief of joy. You have no idea of others circumstances. Maybe those other ladies’ husbands have good jobs and therefore money/cruises/holidays are not an issue. They could be good savers and using that. Maybe someone close to them died and left them an inheritance. My point is, your jealousy is wasted thinking about it.
If you hate your life so much - change it. Don’t like your job? Look for another one. Or go back to college/uni to up your qualifications. Don’t like where you live? Move.
If you feel stuck after DV, get help. There are so many facilities and therapy available for women, you have to be proactive and start doing more for yourself.
Obviously none of this will change your life overnight, but making a start in getting the ball rolling, the momentum will gather and think about where you’ll be this time next year if you just take that first step outside of your comfort zone…

This 👆

I’ve started selling all clothes on Vinted when the kids grow out of them, doesn’t make a huge amount of money but £5 is enough to buy a new toy in a charity shop. Life does get better- it’s hard to see when but it does, you have to hang in there

Go to another GP, your symptoms sound like depression and need to be treated, it could also be an underlying condition such as a thyroid problem which can cause depression and quickly!
You have a child to think of, you need to be healthy for her!
Are you claiming all the benefits you are entitled to? Can you look for a job with less hours and see if benefits can make up the difference?

Your situation does sound hard.
I don't have any advice, but you can text me if you need someone to listen to you.

You are entitled to time off work for doctors appointments, make the appointment.
Your daughter is important but so are you, by the sounds of it all you have is each other, remember that and take care of yourself!! You need to be well in both body and mind

Focus on one aspect of your life that you would like to change first. When everything is going wrong life can feel overwhelming. You could get free career advice. There are quizzes which will tell you what jobs might suit you. There are free courses you could do with the job centre or reed. Not everyone suits open university. There are adult apprenticeships which you could do if you find something you like.