Boundaries
My mother-in-law often treats my partner poorly, even when he’s trying to help. For example, they were moving house and asked him to do a few trips in his car, which he agreed to.
On the same day, my sister came to visit me because I’ve recently had a miscarriage — she lives two hours away, so it was important to me. My partner told his mum he would come and help once everyone had left.
After they finished, he called her, and she said everything had already been moved and sarcastically thanked him for his “help.” When he reminded her that he’d already told her he would come later, she responded by saying he should have called earlier so she could “save him a couple of trips” instead of having someone else do it.
Situations like this happen a lot — she makes sarcastic comments and belittles him, even when he’s done nothing wrong. I’ve suggested he should start putting some boundaries in place, but I’m starting to question whether I’m overreacting
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I think, If she had a specific time she wanted him there, she should’ve voiced that when he said he’d be there later. He wouldn’t be calling “earlier” because he told you he’d be there later and you said nothing about it being an issue or again a specific time.
I’m not really sure how to comment on the “this happens a lot” since this sounds very specific to me. But I don’t think you’re over reacting to her just being blatantly rude/sarcastic for no reason after not being specific about her requirements of his requested help.
That sounds like a communication issue, if she wanted him there by a certain time she should’ve said something. You’re not overreacting it sounds like your husband needs to set some boundaries or he will always get treated like that
I have mentioned that boundaries need to be set, i dont want to push him on the matter to hard, i have told him i am going to take a step back because i dont want to end up saying anything to them and it becoming an seperate issue with me
Thank you for your input, i wanted to make sure i was not over reacting/thinking that their behaviour is unacceptable.
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