How would you react to this? I'm sorry if this triggers people.
So my son has a disability and a small developmental delay. About 6 months ish. His consultant is absolutley fine with his delay and he is doing really well considering where we was 12 months ago.
My colleage keeps telling people at work and making public comments that she thinks my son has Autism and should be tested based on xyz (whatever reason she's willing to give at the time, it varies)
I have the same disability as my son and I have had it for 24 years. I know my son isn't Autistic and he just needs time to adjust to this constantly changing disability. He takes medication which contributes to the developmental delay.
Im more hurt that she is telling people at work that she thinks my son needs more help than he's already receiving. He is absolutley fine at the minute and I wish I could tell her to f**k off because I will most likely get sacked. She also tells people she has a disability when I know damn well she doesn't. She makes horrible jokes about people with mine and my son's disability and I cannot stand this girl!!
Our children go to the same school so her son tells her about how my son is developing and how well he does in class so she is getting her info from her child.
How can I tell her to do one without getting myself sacked??
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I have reported her to my manager, she isn't bothered at all and says we need to sort it between ourselves
I think she's just doing it now to get a rise out of me!
Beat her ass off the clock 🤷‍♀️
Now it's a HR thing my son has Autism and ADHD and I'll be damned if a mother who never walked a day in my shoes gives me advice that wasn't requested. And the fact she is making comments that are rude about disabilities makes me question her work ethics and the establishment that allows them.
You need to text or email your boss about it and ask her to address it with your coworker. State that these comments are happening on the clock and that you feel harassed. Have it in writing! That is absolutely everything. Maybe even include 'I know we've spoken about this before..' documentation is EVERYTHING.
Ive emailed my union rep for advice
You can be firm without being rude.
Look, i want to talk to you about the comments you've been making about my son. In all honesty, ive had enough of it. You're talking about my situation that i am involved in directly and throwing out your opinions to our colleagues that arent true. Im finding this disrespectful and inconsiderate. I doubt this is what you have intended to do but, its coming across extremely patronising and upsetting. I wanted to talk to you in person this time, i will be notifying HR that ive had this conversation with you including the exact details of what ive said but, if i hear anymore comments moving forward i will be going to HR formally as i consider this bullying.
You basically get to tell her to F off professionally.
It’s not anyone’s business
Have you spoken about your child in your office for her to have such opinions?
First mistake is discussing your personal life with work folks
If you made a formal report about her, confronting her is too late
Do not stand for it! She sounds like a nasty piece of work. How dare she comment on your sons situation and insinuate you're not doing everything to others. Thats possibly the worst insult anyone could give a mother. What a bitch. I really hope she backs the f off and apologises. Im so sorry thats happening. I would absolutely hate to be in that situation x
Oh also, just another thought, if you have any evidence, screen shot and document it, if it was verbal write what was said, by who, who was there. It all just helps if it goes that way x
Amazing! Sounds like you're all set to put her back in her box! Hope it all works out. Your story made me genuinely angry. HR should 100% back you.
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