First night in hospital (JR)- partner staying?

Any advice or tips on how my partner can stay first night after elective section. It's my first baby and I'm terrified of being left alone in a bay with no help (I suspect support from mw on postnatal ward is v poor) would do anything not to stay or have him stay with me.

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I wasn’t allowed my partner to stay but I can reassure you that the care we had from the midwives was very good. I had a really painful cannula in my hand and a catheter which made it really hard to get up and pick my baby up to feed her. Even through the night they would come to help me pick her up, feed her and put her back into her swaddle. They were very attentive. But I guess this could change depending on the staff

Not going to happen unfortunately partners still have to abide by the visiting hours. They can’t just let some and not others and would be a nightmare on the wards with everyone having partners stay

My partner was aloud to stay with me the first night and he was aloud to stay over the other nights aswell if he wanted to in the ward I was in.

They’re not allowed to, rightly so in my opinion.
I wouldn’t want a strange man the other side of the curtain to me all night if I was in the bay next to you.

My partner couldn’t stay and the night went pretty quick tbh between dozing and trying to feed baby/having some cuddles

I had a spinal block so needed to buzz for help each time to pick up baby or get a drink etc, and there’s people on hand for that and they do come when you ask for them as that’s literally what they’re there for

Whilst I’d have loved my husband there, it was great for one of us to go get a proper night sleep, and also it meant the ward was quieter than having guests for each person there, so a little more restful

They won’t allow it

You can pay for a private room where your partner can stay if there is one available

in our community

Anyone else up feeding their Bebe?

As above. Trying so hard to keep my eyes open

Oh my God, oh my God I hope this is not true!!!! I’m kind of scared

I’ve been throwing up and taking a shit all night!!! I just hope that it’s not what I think it is

Is this normal??

I’m 29 weeks pregnant and having really aching legs and they’re all lumpy and swollen. Above the knee and behind the knee . Should I be worried ? My legs have never looked like this up until a few days ago. ??

Anyone else experiencing this?

Gave birth (vagina) 5 days ago and yesterday morning and this morning getting lot of pain in my right bottom side and lower back

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Would you bring 9 week old to a family party of 35+ people?

These are also people who will want to pass the baby around and get a turn to hold him. He just got his 2 month shots two days ago