MIL 🙄
So my mil messages me to come see our daughter as my partner and his mum don’t really get along but he didn’t feel it was right my daughter missing out on a grandparent.
I run all plans through him before agreeing to them (even when it’s just me and her).
Now she’s trying to make my FIL sound really bad and it makes my partner and me feel trapped and like we can’t talk to her about everything.
She also has no intention in coming round to see her son, just her granddaughter… do I put my foot down and say that he comes to see him at some point and not my daughter? If she doesn’t then she’s not seeing my daughter
All advise welcome x
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I would just mention that she has a son as well. My mom comes to see me and go shopping with me she says the grandkids are just a bonus. My husbands mom comes to see the grandkids and not really him but its starting to change since I've limited her seeing the grandkids as I tell her she has a son, his kids are just bonus. You wanna see the grandkids then hangout with your son as well.
I mean it’s a two way street, does your partner want to see his mom? Does he want to repair his relationship with his mom? If not I’d say carry on business as usual but if he’s being hurt by it I’d start telling her to ask your partner when he’s available to hangout with her (and y’all’s daughter) next time she wants to see the grand baby and make any and all communication about that baby happen directly through him, she’ll have to talk to him and he’ll have to talk to her and it’ll sort itself out
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