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To be honest- I’m starting to hate that my husband gets to sleep peacefully , getting virtually uninterrupted sleep, while I’m being woken up every other moment by our 5 month old 🙃 I’m so so tired, my body hurts, and I have a little cold that won’t go away. My baby sleeps next to me and feeds on demand (it’s my fault, I know). I tried to regulate him without the boob, tonight, and he started crying. My husband tried to soothe him for less than a minute, but I took him back when I saw my husband was getting irritated by him crying. I ended up feeding him until he was mostly asleep, now he’s sleeping on my chest. I’m awake, I have to use the bathroom, and forgot to take my contacts out, and put nursing pads in, but I’m stuck. Meanwhile, my husband went back to sleep immediately 😮‍💨😤 how do people do this long term? 😩

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You can’t be resentful (like you can, briefly, with a sense of humor) bc if you actually internalize this resentment then things just get worse before they get better. Be grateful that some of the players on your team are well rested and know that you will eventually get more sleep, whether it’s 3 months from now or 3 years from now. And you’re not alone, we’re all tired. Also please eat more high quality food than you think you need and keep taking a good prenatal bc my vitamins help me function and when I don’t get enough food the sleep deprivation hits twice as hard. Ask your hubby for help during the day and maybe you can take a nap or a bath here and there to recharge a little

After 3 kids... I have no answer other than the resentment in th first 6months to a year ( basically till baby sleeps through) is standard and to be expected. Me and my husband laugh about it and every time I fell pregnant I'd say oh noo,... The resentments going t come back! But he does make up for it through out th day where he can! I accepted though that because we ebf this is what comes with it 😩 and now we have 3 I need 1 of us to be fully charged whilst I'm usually on 50% so if he sleeps through its a good thing cause he can handle what I can during th day! Give urself grace, this stage is hard!

I have no advice, but I can advise this is completely normal to feel this way!
I feel awful for some of the things I've said to my husband in the heat of the moment halfway through the night when it's like the 10th time the baby has woken up! But it does get better! He's able to do everything I can do with our 3, nearly 4 year old. So it is just this first 6-12 months depending on when you plan on weaning that gets pretty hard to accept that they can lie there sleeping peacefully like nothing ever happened.

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