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I am utterly heartbroken as my husband has decided our marriage is over. It’s come pretty out of the blue, I genuinely just thought we were having a rough patch and we’d come out the other side. We have a 3 year old and 5 year old and honestly I don’t know how I’m supposed to cope when it comes to separate Christmas’ and birthdays. My 3 year old will never remember us together. I don’t want them to have step parents- honestly I don’t think I’d ever be in love again. I had planned to do life with this man and it’s just over? How do I pick myself up and carry on? I just want to cry

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Being ok comes later, for now have that cry & grieve the relationship. Sorry you're going through this ❤️

Is your marriage really unable to be fixed? What's his reason for divorce?

Do you think he's what you need for your life?
And most men, in my husband's opinion, 90%, wouldn't leave a relationship even they're not happy in it, unless they found another one. Do you think that could be a possibility too?

Give yourself some
Time to grief your loss of your marriage but also don’t get to feeo into it bc if u do it’ll take over so after a day or so u need to wake up and to get out the bed u will need help but u can help yourself trick your brain count 5-5-3-2-1 and juat get up and if u got to do that for every move u make do it I promise it works and take care of you go do things that makes u feel better about yourself get your toes and nails done go tan whatever it takes but always always make time for you first bc how can you take care of your kids if your not okay I learned a lot of this the hard way

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My husband and I had been married for 2 years now. Honestly it’s been HELL. Nothing abusive. We got married one month after dating so you can imagine how that’s going lol. Right now ? We’ve been on bad terms since August !!! It’s march 😭😭😭 he trying but it’s not good enough but I miss him so much ( he’s always away , navy) but as soon as he gets back the fight continues bc it never freaking ended. We’ve barely spoken for 2 weeks and every time he leaves we have a big fight the night before 🙄🙄🙄 I miss him bad but hate him all the same time. I want to stop being sooooo angry with him but I feel like if I stop it will show that I’m not standing on my boundaries 😒😒 he’s been pretty much underway since August… and still isn’t done yet 🤦🏾‍♀️ won’t be until next month… Jesus. Any military spouses ? How in the fuck can you deal with anything when they aren’t even here 🙄🙄🙄

Would it bother you if your husband was hanging out with his sister at 4am in a closed bedroom upstairs while you’re in bed downstairs?

My sister in law is visiting/spending the night and we haven’t seen her in over a year because of living abroad. I have some past trauma from my own family so I was triggered when my husband saw that I was almost asleep at 4am when he was up playing video games and instead of coming to bed, went upstairs to chat with his sister. But I sound crazy even saying anything because it’s his sister, right? Is it inappropriate? Am I buggin? Would you feel uncomfortable?

..... divorce or marriage counseling?

2 kiddos, no DV, No cheating. Financially we are okay, slowly moving up in physical stability. However emotionally and physically we seem to hate each other. To be honest I cannot stand him anymore. I spent the whole time giving myself to my newborns, then to him. He can't even tell me I am pretty, or appreciated, or.... anything, besides argue and diminish me. I cannot stand him.

He hasn't been evil.

Do I do therapy (which will be its own fight)
Or just start paperwork?

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Would it bother you if your husband was hanging out with his sister at 4am in a closed bedroom upstairs while you’re in bed downstairs?

..... divorce or marriage counseling?

Screen or paper — how do you handle story time?

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