Mums that have kids🥰

I really liked when people visited at the hospital. We had nurses to help with the baby and i was bed fed and taken care of really well. But when people came to my house, I felt extremely overwhelmed. I was trying to get used to my baby's needs and schedule. It felt like everyone was in the way and I couldn't "turn off" socially and just focus on the baby and myself.

I couldn’t wait. I got discharged the same day as giving birth but my in laws and sister in law managed to come see us in the hospital and then my Mum and grandparents came to see us the next day at home.

I WASN'T HAPPY UNLESS THEY GAVE ME WARNING
CAUSE THEY NEED TO MASK UP

I spent 7 days in hospital so by day 8 I was fine with visitors. No one came to the hospital, which was my choice.

All my family travel to visit so there was plenty of warning for all.

I allowed my baby’s grandparents, aunts and uncles to know right away. I didn’t want my extended family or friends to know my baby was born until about a week later. Of course that didn’t happen. I was so uncomfortable in my own recovery, and uncomfortable with people holding my baby + trying to give me advice and talk about my recovery. I just wanted to heal, and spend time with my baby and I was bothered enough that I broke my own boundaries… I was so uncomfortable and I wish I stood my ground even today. I still waited a few weeks before anyone else met her but I wish I waited until I was more comfortable

Overwhelmed as I'm a mess right now and in no routine. I think people should ask after the 3 month mark as that's when most babies get easier and grow out of colic, reflux etc

We live 5 hours away from both families so when I went into labour (at 9pm) they all set off the next day to come down. We had them all book hotels/airbnbs as our 1 bed flat was too small to host everyone overnight. They would visit us in the day, sometimes all 6 people sometimes 3 people in the morning then 3 people in the evening. They roughly stayed for a week and I loved having everyone around us. They would sometimes watch baby for a little bit to give me and dad a chance to nap.

I had my first in lockdown so no one could visit. It was hard in some ways but amazing in others!

I think it depends so much on the personalities and dynamics involved as well as how delivery went.

Helpful family and friends are almost always welcome as long as you get a heads up, but folk who expect to be made cups of tea and hog the baby are not. My in laws live abroad so would need to stay for weeks - that's very different to popping in for a cuppa. What are your people like?

With my youngest I was at soft play a couple of days later as I was feeling absolutely fine and breastfeeding was breeze. But with my youngest I couldn't sit down properly for ages because of painful stitches and I spent a lot of the first few weeks topless and crying as breastfeeding was a nightmare.

Not a great answer but "it depends" 🙈

I was so grateful we had so many lovely people in our lives who wanted to visit - but it was also lovely when it was just the 4 of us in the house. I missed spending time with my eldest boy. It was nice having a jammy day in the house with our little family.