Help please
Last night I found out my fiancé was trying to get girls off twitter to FaceTime him was even willing to pay them. He’s messaged about 13 girls in the last 2 weeks with the moth recent one being on Saturday while I was in the hospital finding out I’m gonna have to have my gallbladder removed he was trying to pay a woman to FaceTime him and my heart literally hurts my chest is tight I don’t know how to respond. We have 2 kids together as of today a 1 month old and a 2.5 year old and I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for 6 years have been actively planning our wedding I’ve had wedding stuff being delivered to our house literally over the last few days and now this. He keeps telling me it was an ignorant mistake and he’ll never do it again please just give him a chance but I seriously don’t know how to react.
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13 girls is not an “ignorant” mistake. It’s a conscious decision he made and one he can’t even take full accountability for. I personally would never be able to move past this. Maybe I’d try but all trust would be gone, the phone would be monitored, and he’d be feeling like he lives in jail which is no way to live and not how a relationship should be. Not only is that cheating, he’s taking money away from your family trying to give it to random women, and doing so when you’re in the hospital. He has no morals and that’s not someone I would want in my life let alone someone I’d want to raise children with.
I have been through something very similar and my heart aches for you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Just know - it isn't you and you did nothing wrong. Your fiancee is likely a sex addict and it's more about validation than it is about wanting other people. It's a deep sickness.This kind of behavior doesn't go away without serious intervention and help and him taking full accountability for his actions. What you do next is totally up to you, but just know you don't have to do it alone. I'm so sorry for the pain. All you can really do now is sit with your grief until you figure out how you want to move forward with your life. Feel all the feelings and then go with your gut and your mind, not your heart.
Omg I been through something so similar while I was pregnant with my first and forgave him and he was doing the same thing when I was pregnant with my second smh
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